How child should cope with criticism and insult

Today’s younger generation is emotionally vulnerable and prone to take to offence easily in the face of criticism and insults. Scolding at home, school, college prompts one to take revenge in different form of actions including physical hurt to oneself, things and people around in order to release pent up feelings built up over a time. Personal Diary writing, a habit if cultivated, helps to express and understand one self. Personal Diary, a tool to communicate with self, is a hobby that helps one put daily one’s thoughts, feelings and emotions in a given stressful/happy incident of the day on paper honestly without any inhibition. Reading the diary later on, one gets a clear picture of what is going on within us, with us and around us. It helps in arranging one’s thought process opting for the positives rather than the negatives. Remembering the good/pleasant things that happened in one’s life cultivates a sense of gratitude and thereby drives one towards positive attitude. Reviewing one’s emotional response to pent up anxious feelings, at times destructive & detrimental, helps one admit and opt for course correction to turn negative feelings into positive ones.  This hobby helps in keeping emotional turmoil under check, cope with a situation, of disliking, in a healthier manner, releases stress built up due to pent up feelings providing relief and grow into a happy and fun loving human living.  

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Behavioral issues in a love relationship

Behavioral issues in a love relationship........

Life is not static but dynamic. Life means readjustment & adaptation.  At times one finds it difficult to adapt and adjust to circumstances. When the interaction just reduces to being judgmental and finding fault in each other, nagging each other, dominating each other in a bid to establish supremacy, questioning each and every action of each other, it drives you to developing hate and breakup of your delicate love relationships. Counseling helps in defining and maintaining meaningful relations. It helps in exploring the inner side of the person. It helps you to recognize the inner self and channelize energy into greater good. It helps in evaluation and understanding of the situation in a better way.  Contact m-9872880634

Negative Expectations

Negative Expectations ???  Expecting “someone” to behave in a manner that is pleases you.

It is a rigid expectation because you become prisoner to their behavior. You place the burden of your own expectations on them causing them to feel suffocated in your presence. If you feel that your logical explanations are normal but your child/ life partner/ peers feels suffocated, it is right time to take psychological Counseling. Contact m-9872880634

Bullying

Bullying has a negative impact in children. It is a deliberate, consistent and intentional attempt to put one down publically based on some perceived weakness. One feels humiliated, intimidated, socially isolated and faces mental or emotional health issues. Bullying can be verbal, physical or digital in nature. Complete non appreciation of one’s existence, questioning for each and every thing leads to one’s alienation. One suffers silently the mental agony. If your child starts remaining aloof, his/her bullying experiences can be one of the probable reasons. Consult Child psychologist M-9872880634

kids require friendships.

.... Why can’t my child make friends? This can be a difficult question to ask yourself. But if your child rarely gets invited on play dates and spends most of his time alone at home, it can be hard not to wonder—and worry. 

For kids of all ages, friendships offer the acceptance, approval and sense of belonging they crave. If your child struggles to connect with other kids and form friendships, it can be a blow to his self-esteem or leave him feeling alone and frustrated. 

What Can Cause Trouble With Making Friends    “If your child’s learning and attention issues cause him to have a hard time making friends, there are ways to improve his social skills.”   

ADHD: Kids with ADHD may lack self-control, be overactive, talk too much, talk without thinking or not pay attention to what other people are saying. 

Executive functioning issues:Children with executive functioning issues may have trouble sharing, taking turns, controlling emotions and accepting other viewpoints. 

Nonverbal learning disabilities(NVLD): Kids with NVLD may miss social cues like body language, expression and tone of voice. They may not understand humor or sarcasm and may take what others say too literally. 

Language disorders: Children with language disorders may not understand the rules of conversation or may have trouble finding the right words. They may avoid talking when around other kids.
 
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Loneliness and depression

Today’s interaction on social media (virtual communication) expressing our feelings without any inhibitions, fear of repercussions is gripping majority of us. Why is it so that even while sitting along with few and far less acquaintances we have today, we are busy on our mobiles. It is because we invariably get together with specific reasons and vested interests. It is a fact that we gel together with people with whom we may have some work with at any point of life. Otherwise we are lonely, as practically we do not find any one available when you really want to chat or share. So we opt for social media searching for belongingness with strangers. The anonymous people on social media acknowledges our feelings that makes us feel we are not alone and helps in off loading all that we are going through and make us feel important. This loneliness over a period develops into depression.       

Internet addiction disorder (IAD)

Internet addiction disorder (IAD).... Also known as problematic Internet use or pathological Internet use, refers to excessive Internet use that interferes with daily life.  There is behavioral dependence on internet use. Adolescents (12–17 years) and emerging adults (18–29 years) access the Internet more than any other age groups and undertake a higher risk of overuse of the internet. The IAD is so much in young children that it significantly affects their concentration, social behaviour and performance. 
I
f you feel/observe your child/ teenager or yourself is now on the way to be a case of Internet Addiction Disorder Contact for psychological counselling session.

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Professional psychological counselling - when and why ?

Doubtfulness, identity crisis, swinging between overconfidence and a complete lack of it, being at cross road and deciding which way to proceed for personal and professional future –a time when one is in a flux with lot of queries and no help at hand seeking Professional Psychological counseling is the best bet one has at that point of time.

Think about it

Words of German poet and novelist Hermann Hesse:

“The high value put upon every minute of time, the idea of hurry-hurry as the most important objective of living, is unquestionably the most dangerous enemy of joy”

Applied it is this 'hurry-hurry' that makes you rush through your endeavors on daily basis and keeps you away from the fun of life.   

A view point worth taking note of

Have patience to listen. Do not ignore personal issues. Avoid finding fault/ do not be judgmental. It may result in loss of respect and trust.  Dominant behavior is detrimental to a positive outcome and healthy growth. Personal values may be different, acknowledge them. Need is to be compassionate, to console, to support and encourage. Evaluate the circumstances leading to a situation. Do not take things for granted, do communicate in an unbiased manner. Evaluate strengths and weaknesses. Appreciate strengths and work on weaknesses to change them into strengths. 

Analyzing success and failure

Analyzing Success And Failure 

You feel positive and joyful when you realize that you are successful. However, when you fail, you feel defeated. The definition of success and failure varies from one person to another and according to the stage of life that you are in. Success and failure are integral part of growing up and it is very important to have success and failure well defined for yourself, because, based on your definition, you feel greater or lesser inner well being, happiness and wholeness. There are also different levels of success and of failure. For example, for some the greatest success is to be happy and radiant, whatever happens inside or outside. If one manages to keep happy in the face of failure, for them it is a success. Because to be happy means that I am connected with my essential worth or inner self, my being is awake and alive. Failure does not reduce my vitality, my contentment levels. The greater or fewer external/materialistic achievements do not reduce the quality of the inner being or of being happy. The important thing is that you believe in your own definition of success and failure.

Psychological counseling helps you define your definition of success and failure.

Positivity - a positive emotion

Importance of positivity meaning positive emotion.

Interactions with others he/she of whatever age impacts ones thought process and action to different degrees and makes one question and rethink about ones own behavior. Helplessness is a source of endless sufferings.  Optimism/Hope as against helplessness improves the quality of life one leads.  Childhood, adolescence and education shapes ones future. Psychology is the science of addressing ones troubles/ mental illness and helps one to manage his/her life. It guides one to self discovery to live a purposeful life with passion. Break the social barriers, inhibition and consult psychologist as and when you start feeling helplessness.       

Overeating

Overeating ...

Children who compulsively overeat, may be using food as their only way to cope  with negative emotions. As a result, they often feel that their eating is out of control. They think about food all the time and feel guilty, ashamed, or depressed after eating. Psychological Counseling session helps to overcome this situation.

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Bullying and it's effects on Children

Bullying and it's effects on Child...

Bullying is an attempt, usually a systematic and ongoing one, to undermine and harm someone based on some perceived weakness. Generally a group of classmates, specific to a child, join together in harassing and bullying. It can be either mental/emotional or physical. Child facing bullying gets fearful, upset, isolated, distracted, disinterested, hurt etc. etc. thereby hampering a healthy growth.  Although commonly associated with children, bullying can occur at any age. . A child who experiences mental or emotional health effects as a result of bullying may find it helpful to seek Counselling  from Child psychologist and counselor .

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Irritation ?

Irritation ? 

Irritability is a feeling of agitation. When you're irritable, you become frustrated or upset easily. You might experience it in response to stressful situations. It may also be a symptom of a mental or physical health condition. Irritation also has feeling of Anger within. You may be in hurry from inside , it also brings irritation. Counseling session helps to understand your self and helps to overcome from this State of mind.

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Narcissism - A personality trait

From journal “Personality and Individual differences”

“Narcissism is considered as a socially malevolent trait and it is part of the Dark Triad of personality traits – narcissism, psychopathy and Machiavellianism” said Kostas Papageorgiou from Queen’s University Belfast in UK.   

He said “Previous studies indicate that narcissism is a growing trend in our society but this does not necessarily mean that an individual who displays high narcissistic qualities has a personality disorder.”

Research focused on subclinical or “normal” narcissism found that it includes some of the same features of clinical syndrome – grandiosity, entitlement, dominance and superiority. It suggested that in some ways , narcissism might actually be a positive attribute and that conventional social morality should include and celebrate all expressions of human nature.

“The emotions or personality traits are perceived by the society as being either Bad or Good but Psychological traits are the products of evolution: they are neither Bad nor Good”—KOSTAS PAPAGEORGIOU

Be in 'Love' with self

Be in love with self

Adolescents who are mentally tough perform better at school. They exhibit features like grandiosity, entitlement, dominance and superiority. They strongly believe that they are better than others and deserve reward. They embrace challenges as opportunity for personal growth. The heightened sense of self worth make them motivated, assertive and successful. They can perform at their very best in pressure and diverse conditions.

Celebrate this expression of human nature