Enhance the quality of relationships

Child psychologist and counselor

Behaviour is categorized as either acceptable or unacceptable. Society identifies an individual’s character in accordance with how one conducts himself/herself. Respect & consideration for others in your interactions is essential to decent behavior. One’s acts, gestures, words, posture and appearance does affect and defines his/her acceptability by people around, one is interacting with, improve upon them to enhance the quality of relationships.

DEPRESSION---GROWING NEED FOR PSYCHOLOGICAL COUNSELLING

The worry and pressures of competition among the peers and the stress of pleasing family adversely affects mental health of children. Their suppressed feelings of being responsible for the failure, rejection and the internal fight with these nagging thoughts result in emotional turmoil, depression and escapist tendencies driving them to the extent of suicides. They need to speak out openly, talk about their struggles, not to be apologetic, admit and accept the mistakes and seek help/support to overcome the mental imbalance. Acknowledge their need for psychological counseling and do not let them suffer silently their terrible mental condition in isolation. The professional psychologist helps them deal and fight slowly and steadily towards mental fitness. Contact -9872880634

Manage the reality and be happy.

Does enjoyment means the time spent in the company of friends only. Watching a movie, vacation, dinning out, any celebration etc but not without friends is an obsession and takes away one’s own private time and is a reality. One is a Friend-obsessed person and is constrained to invite displeasure, cribbing, irritating behavior of one's own family members. Do also value and cherish the moments spent in the company of  family members.   

Joy harmony and peace

Subconscious heals and strengthens. Conscious mind is rational- helps you decide with reasoning whereas subconscious mind is irrational and holds emotions, thoughts/ideas processed into beliefs that manifest into our behavior. The unwarranted fear, worry, doubts, cynicism gives birth to tensions & anxiety. Do not harbor resentment and hatred. Feeling of love and kindness tears apart the anger and hatred. Select thoughts/ideas correctly, do not accept superstitions & falsehoods and create a reservoir of infinite intelligence, firm mind, wisdom above pleasure, pain, loss/gain within you that inspires, secures and brings in joy, harmony and peace in your life.  

Facing Acute Embarrassment

Child Psychologist and Counselor Chandigarh

Facing Acute Embarrassment

Sometimes a situation beyond one’s control leads him/her to witness insensitive, unpalatable, nasty and snide remarks, turns one into a subject of gossip, discussions and judgments in his/her social circle. It turns out to be an acute embarrassment and facing the society becomes a great concern. It hurts, makes one angry & irritable, develops a complex and life changes. It gives birth to hesitation and awkwardness and plagues one constantly with the feeling “why this? Change perception with the help of psychological counseling. 

Bring out the best in your child

Child Psychologist and Counselor

Bring out the best in your child

Compassion is a great motivating factor. Parental support, help, guidance & focus on his/her well being while assisting a child define and work towards goal with clarity brings out the best in your child. Assertiveness and control does not pay and is not desirable. Generally each individual thinks himself/herself as somebody and rebels on being denied his right. Trust in capability, respect for views, showing tolerance to inadvertent and unintentional mistakes and making him/her feel important rather than micro managing helps the child develop in an emotionally sharp and intelligent human being. Criticism stunts the normal growth but deliberate mistakes and blunders deserve strict handling. Your opinion/action must not generate feelings that depress him/her.

Developing Friendship

Developing Friendship

                         

In a first time conversation with a stranger generally a thought engulfs oneself whether the stranger likes me equally as I like him/her. Actually praise is a stimulant that enhances one’s self worth leading to a feeling of being in an adequately comfortable space. This inner dialogue initiated limits us to words/thought repetition that stops us from believing that we can do it. It lowers our self esteem. We keep on pondering and form an opinion according to our own judgment. This type of impression hinders our ability to develop relationship further. Go slow, stop this inner dialogue and change your impression/perception.     

Parenting tip

Child Psychologist and Counselor in Chandigarh 

Parenting tip

Children are sensitive to the day to day interactions with peers, parents and teachers. They tend to believe what they are told. Criticism, Negative statements like finding faults in others or witnessing aggressive behavior develops a kind of behavior a child displays that needs correction. They ponder over it and then create their own opinion according to their judgment. It limits their ability to think and explore. Tolerating or inflicting trauma, poking fun at others physical traits/mannerism, facing or forcing isolation, mocking/spreading rumours about certain classmate that makes him/her uncomfortable are not normal, mischievous behavior of a child. Unchecked and taken lightly this type of behaviors nurture aggression/meekness in them, either of which is not good for a child to grow into a well behaved and well mannered adult.

Do away with Restlessness

Restlessness

Look inwards for peace and contentment. One easily gets swayed by the goings on around leaving one mentally exhausted. Look at the bigger picture and control your thoughts to navigate through unending worries. Persistent state of despair and sadness adversely affects mental and physical health.

Live a peaceful and calm life

A peaceful and calm life.

An individual has his/her own issues, determined by their individualistic psyche, troubling them day in and day out. There is need for clear distinction in mind on the type of issue and find ways to handle it accordingly. Some issues bring in excitement and exhilaration that require celebration. Others force an individual towards fight or flight mode, these require serious tackling. One’s perception is what drives you away from your normal human behavior. Talk out your problems, silence pushes you into intensified state of dejection. Communication provides warmth, hope and solution. In order to be mentally strong and emotionally healthy one has to learn to minimize triggers and tame responses. Professional psychologists help you understand the ways to deal with issue stressing, disturbing peace and calm in your life.        

Know each other well and establish long lasting relationships

Know each other well and establish long lasting relationships.

Engage in short duration friendly conversations when meeting for the first time. Talk about things other than that are perceived as invasive. Be attentive, relaxed and appreciative while exchanging views. Compliment from time to time. In your conversation skip uncomfortable subjects that are too personal or over friendly. Build a rapport and know each other well to establish long lasting relationship.  

Caution !!!

Anmol Singh - Child Psychologist, Chandigarh 

In case a child/teenage acts on an impulse of rage and vengeance, is restless, there is fall in grades and performance, is unable to concentrate, spends sleepless nights, shows prevalence of some addictive behavior and does not listen to instructions; start   observing for repetition of symptoms like irritability, tantrums, severe anger, violent behavior, social aloofness, anxiety and depression in your child – if positive, it is time to take an appointment with professional psychologist.

Life is precious and wonderful -explore it

Life is precious & wonderful

Experiment, Learn, adopt and share, accept and adapt to inspiring and supportive interaction. Begin from the beginning and gradually embark on the journey of discovering and re-discovering all that life has to offer. No two journeys are the same. Work hard, believe in your abilities, remain motivated, energetic & creative, focus and dedicate to your passion. Dream, explore, enjoy and grow as a person. Life is precious & wonderful.

Will power and life

Live a normal, healthy and happy life.

Adverse conditions/circumstances must be taken up as a challenge and motivation to decide and act on a plan to tide over them. Do not get trapped in self pity mode, have faith & be optimist  in your own strengths to control your own affairs optimistically. Love yourself, adopt a work out regime for a healthy & strong body to own a strong mind. Biases and perceptions in life at times leave you with unsupportive relationships resulting in lack of social support, do not give them any room consciously. Always believe in dictum “It shall pass”.