Uncontrollable recurrent thoughts/acts – Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)

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Uncontrollable recurrent thoughts/acts – Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)  

Spending a long time in washroom, washing hands again & again, seeking cleanliness/orderliness, checking and rechecking, indulgence in self talk are few symptoms of a personality trait that tests other’s patience and compassion. These embarrassing impulsive socially awkward behavior/actions of an individual develop an uneasy relationship between him and family, friends & colleagues. These acts cause the person significant stress and disruption in daily life. Individual suffers and struggles with the feeling of abandonment, loneliness, gap between ability & aspirations, stigma and apathy. It is the chemical imbalance in brain leads an individual experience recurring thoughts/repetitive actions, one has no control over. Generally we are ill-informed and ill-equipped to deal with these individuals in need of trust and support. Such individuals call for greater care and consideration.

Failed relationships

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Inner sense of rebellion at being compelled to pursue a career either under pressure from parents or one’s awareness of the need for money instead of what you are passionate about quietly builds up suppressed feelings leading to pent up anger and aggression in human being.  Firm expression of one’s needs & conviction, openly and honestly, without any inhibition, without being disrespectful & abusive avoids unwarranted accumulation of suppressed feelings & thus interpersonal conflicts. Self acceptance of one’s own emotional state & response, respect for other’s limitations, assertive communication but a pleasant approach with love remaining non-judgemental helps in avoiding withdrawal & thus failed relationships.

Life is beautiful and simple do not complicate it. Leave arrogance and reconnect with family, people and live every moment. People slip away from our lives like sand. Do not deny existence of a problem, speak up when in trouble/traumatized without being afraid of the consequences. Share your trauma/sorrows with others without inhibition, your silence & suppression of thoughts lead to anxiety, sadness & depression. Parents must listen quietly/ believe in what their child tells. They must indulge and encourage him/her to communicate more. He/She may seem quite happy, doing well but may be lonely inside struggling all alone. Seek professional help.

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Anxiety, depression, alcoholism, drug abuse, aggression/violence, self neglect, obsessive compulsive disorder are some of the mental illnesses/problems one lacks the capacity to handle of his own and silently suffers never ending battle with these illnesses throughout the life. The person and his/her family hesitate to admit existence and seek professional guidance/help to tackle these problems due to the stigma attached. The mistrust and doubtful integrity of society clubbed with fear of disrespect endangers the dignity of the person. Few incapable to deal with enhanced level of stress end up committing suicide causing irreparable loss to the family and society. One must start his/her day by seeking blessings of Almighty and be grateful for the beautiful life. Just remember how much blessed you are, the moment feel overwhelmed. A Professional helps one to acquire the skills and knowledge to handle the symptoms in his/her day to day activities.

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No one has the right to call a child stupid/idiotic

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No one has the right to call a child stupid/idiotic.

A child is groomed & conditioned to accept & reciprocate in a particular style as he/she grows up while witnessing interpersonal communication of people surrounding him/her. He/She is constrained to face relevant/irrelevant questions by people making the child respond in his/her acquired style accordingly. His/her response, when found weird/awkward, makes us form an opinion about his/her behavior and label him/her stupid/idiotic. Please never ever call a child stupid/idiot.     

Happily engaged child

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Happily engaged child

Spare & spend time, value his/her existence & show you care, to have an everlasting bond with your child. Discuss together and encourage child to come out with ideas/ways to make his/her learning a fun process to achieve set goal. Regularly acknowledge and recognize his/her efforts via a simple pat on the back/reward to keep the child motivated and happily engaged in learning. Make him understand that his/her evaluation is not to scare him/her but to appreciate his/her initiative. Evaluations are undertaken to communicate & validate he/she is on the right path of learning process and is happily engaged child. In the process he/she will voluntarily make extra efforts to train & develop for his/her growth.  

Blissful life- be master of own destiny.

Blissful life- be master of own destiny.

Drive away your fears, control repetitive & compulsive reaction and create a balance between mind and body. Being happy and joyful means leading a stress free life. Nature provides serene environment in which one gets the opportunity to converse with GOD in the quietness and have a Divine connect. Mind is difficult to control however emoting from heart in personal conversation with god, unburdening oneself, seeking benevolence invites divine grace.     

Parental dominance and its effects.

Parental dominance and its effects.

Parent’s nagging too much over upkeep of his/her room, time spent on mobile or the friends he keeps and repeatedly preaching life’s lessons telling kids as what is good for them make them react violently. Chide a child with adjectives useless, pathetic, good for nothing fellow and invite impolite response. They rebel and react with brazenness to express defiance when feel humiliated. Disrespect is displayed by teenagers wanting their space in the form of rude behavior due to their annoyance. The heated exchange between parents and a defiant child in turn is awkward. Learn to ignore minor irritants and show basic respect to child irrespective of the age. Don’t counter their rude behavior in the same spirit instead leave and take time out. Realization afterwards works better with the kids. 

Issues of concern linked to time spent on screens i.e smart phone, tablets, video games, television etc.

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Issues of concern linked to time spent on screens i.e smart phone, tablets, video games, television etc.

A US study published in the journal Preventive Medicine Reports claim that after just one hour of screen time, children and adolescents may have less curiosity to learn, lower self control, bad temper & lower emotional stability that can lead to an increased risk of anxiety and depression. Leisure time spent by children and adolescents on such devices can and must be regulated for keeping in check the adverse effects on their mental health/wellbeing. Regular exercise regimen and playing outdoors in childhood/adolescence promotes long lasting health.     

Convey polite refusal to unreasonable excessive demands/request.

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Convey polite refusal to unreasonable excessive demands/request.

The fear of being typecast as difficult person force individuals take an approach of keeping mum or saying a feeble yes instead of clear refusal when in a situation of turning down a unreasonable excessive demand/request. An individual needs to understand that longevity of relationships solely depends upon transparent communication. Saying No bluntly is generally interpreted as emotional reaction and not a thought through answer. Acknowledge and thereafter convey with a smile a reasoned polite negative response to the point for an effective intended refusal.

Overreaction is harmful

Overreaction is harmful.

Overreaction in situations is instinctive and self damaging but the realization comes later. Watch out for warning signs, identify, plan and convince self of the need to change this aspect of your personality. One who controls this aspect of his/her personality gets better control over self that helps avoid unwarranted outcome. Building a strong relationships after all is very important for socializing, having fun conversations and to discuss something weighing on mind. 

A must to do at the end of the day

A must to do at the end of the day.

An individual in today’s fast racing world experiences, all through the day, various situations that gives birth to anxiety and worry. The physical and emotional stress so generated elicits either fight or flight response. At the end of the day calm your agitated mind to deal with the racing thoughts damaging yourself. Any activity/hobby like reading, walk, game etc which is carried out with concentration and focus for about a minimum of 60 minutes provides distraction and helps calm your mind & body.

Alienation causes stress

Alienation causes stress and adversely affects health. Lost deep in thought, avoids sharing concerns are some of the symptoms indicating an individual is on the path to alienation. Individual suffers feeling of discomfort due to fear of being perceived in a certain way, fear of losing out, insecurity, lack of self awareness, clarity of goal and commitment. Fear of rejection affects self esteem leading to isolation. The individual is in urgent need of a person in whom he/she can confide and share his/her concerns. Professionals are trained to listen in a non biased manner with care and respect maintaining the individual’s privacy and counsel accordingly.