Explore & experiment

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Success in life depends upon disciplined life style and the courage of conviction. Believe in self, be confident to dream big, come out of comfort zone and try newer things. One evolves as one grows in life gaining different experiences with different people. Present time is more demanding and exciting as one has to deal with better informed and aware people.  In the struggle to maintain sanity and keep yourself rooted, you need to explore and experiment with different options to know thyself fully.

Self Growth

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

A young mind wishes to be confident, have fun, flirt, carve a niche for self and make peace with his/her own individuality. One yearns for freedom to choose, explore, discover self, have me-time and me-space with no interference in his/her conduct of life. Experience of staying alone while growing up, away from the protective environment free from the scrutiny of your actions by parents/well wishers, managing own shelter, meals, laundry, money matters, travel, learns about diverse people around, makes one stronger, better person and responsible for own decisions. The perceptible change in the version of life acquired under protective environment shall come through mental & emotional growth, enhanced capability to understand, managing things of his/her own, firsthand experience of life & be responsible.

The core traits - Persistence, Patience and Perseverance.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

The core traits - Persistence, Patience and Perseverance.  

An individual who does not give up when the going gets tough brings in stability & peace in his/her life. Persistence, patience and perseverance are the core traits/characteristics of this individual’s personal life that motivates & drives him/her to take small steps one after the other to overcome the roadblocks dampening his/her spirit, remain enthusiastic, remain on chosen course, learn and unlearn habits to defeat the adverse conditions and remain joyful to propel personal growth.   

The respect and consideration exhibited in the course of interpersonal interaction enhances the mutual likeability between two individuals. An individual is judged by the confident assertiveness retaining his/her composure exhibited during the dialogue for worthiness and credibility while entering into a relationship. A grateful, calm, happy, healthy, truthful, positive person exhibiting awareness, clarity of thoughts/perspective, life philosophy of self restraint, sense of humour, compassion, love, conduct devoid of deceit, greed, anger, pride & hatred is always a valuable asset to his/her partner.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Self talk - Inner dialogue

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Self talk - Inner dialogue

Life gets rough when one commits mistakes, faces failures, rejection, depression & anxiety, don’t give up display strength. Self talk is a habit with humans that builds up the perception one carries, whether optimistic/positive or pessimistic/negative and it accordingly makes a huge difference to one’s conduct in the face of any adverse circumstance. Pessimistic self talk makes one feel vulnerable & start living in own fortress thus holds one from looking for solutions whereas optimistic self talk motivates one look for & find solutions. One who is aware of the problem impacting his/her life, thinks with clarity, redefines one’s assumptions/presumptions and replaces negative mindset into positive one succeeds in breaking the recurring pessimistic pattern to create a positive inner dialogue. It helps one break silence, rid himself / herself of suppressed feelings, consciously stop recurring negative thoughts and perceive any circumstance as less stressful thus making life easy and enjoyable. Life is meant to be lived. 

One’s decision to opt for professional counselling session is not one’s weakness but a sign of absolute strength. Depression is a neurological disease that brings in structural changes in brain. The trigger for depression setting in can be certain life event or circumstances. An individual may turn to intake of drugs/alcohol etc to cope with stress and end up getting addicted. One’s endeavour must be to express and discuss one’s worries or inimical thoughts like time to end life, with someone trust worthy for sense of relief. One’s family members and well wishers need to develop a rapport. They must have clear, consistent, firm dialogue without being critical & harsh to help one see how it is impacting the life and goals. Exercise, yoga, meditation all help to reduce stress and act as mood elevators. Pets do help in coping & reducing stress because relationships with pets are less complicated than those with humans and are often a source of great enjoyment.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

How to face a stressful situation – whether related to relationship or workplace

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

How to face a stressful situation – whether related to relationship or workplace 

Exposure to a stressful situation whether related to relationship or workplace is inevitable. A simple example; one barges uninvited into the quiet conversation/debate and creates a distracting ruckus that derails the seriousness is not uncommon and avoidable. The situation is not always in one’s control but the way of handling it is in one’s control. One himself / herself is responsible for the upsets due to offsets triggered due to the uninvited interruptions in the recurring patterns of our thoughts.  Accept & assess the situation, address it by handling such an upsetting situation via comfortable adaptation to it for effecting a change in certain aspects of the situation and gain an emotional comfort. Take it as a challenge rather than as a threat; deal with an attitude of ease and calm to remain focused on your agenda.