Stress, sleepiness, self indulgence, boredom, lack of will and wandering nature of mind are reasons that distract one from maintaining a stable focus. Behavioural therapy is helpful in replacing old behavioural patterns with new ones that are instrumental in releasing & relieving one of internal mind chatter, relaxation of body and alleviate anxiety.   

It is quite normal for a child to feel anxious sometimes but display of anxiety & phobia without any substantial/apparent reason is a cause of worry. Increasing expectations in the face of cut throat competition, nuclear family limiting family connections, inadequate social mingling are some of the reasons for a child to develop anxiety disorders that results in devastating effect on his/her academic performance. A child’s frequent complaints before certain tasks like headache, stomach-ache, feeling unwell and physical distress may be symptomatic of anxiety disorders. These children fighting anxiety & depression exhibit sleep problem, radical behavioural change such as withdrawal, loss of interest in activities, aggression, hyperactivity, difficulty in eating, and oppositional defiance. These signs when observed in a child should not be ignored and discussed with a professional. Cognitive behaviour therapy provides favourable outcomes.

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Life comes with insecurities that drives one seek approval and appreciation for one’s actions. It is natural but life needs to move on. One cannot be stuck down with anxiety and fear of missing out as it is detrimental for health. Listen & reflect, reconcile and harmonize different viewpoints to understand reality. Live in the present moment with non judgemental attitude to eliminate build up of stress and lead a joyful life. Detox your body and mind by disciplining your mind to overcome stress and relax in order to prepare oneself for playing a constructive role in life. Put aside thoughts of past & future, do not judge yourself, be calm & quiet, be aware of your each & every action, observe & learn. Switch focus to things enriching and entertaining to live your dream. Let professional counselling help you in this endeavour.

Responsibilities make one take life seriously and completely forget about self care for revitalizing one’s body & mind. In the process, one fine day one starts feeling mentally, emotionally and physically tired/exhausted. The emotional and physical exhaustion makes one incapable of handling stress, develop low esteem & resentment. The body and mind needs to be rejuvenated consistently while discharging our worldly duties for a joyful life. Do not ignore own personal needs while taking care of others. Pamper yourself, spare time for communion with nature, meditation, naturopathy, opt for regular physical exercise & healthy diet for a break from the reality for sometime in order to relax your mind and clam down your body.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

   

Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) – for anger management

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) – for anger management

Everyone experiences anger, fear, worry, sadness and joy. Anger destroys one’s intellect leading to one’s own ruin. One loses control over oneself and in a fit of rage behaves in an irrational/illogical way that harms him/her and others. Fear, failure, loss, threat, insult, assault, cheating, bullying, unhealthy relationship and adverse life-situation are the factors that trigger anger. Think clearly, reasonably, compassionately before an exaggerated impulsive reaction. Self awareness, self control and virtues like love, kindness, patience, humility, forgiveness helps manage one’s anger. A non judgemental conciliatory approach helps to restrain emotional trigger to anger, quietens the mind, restrains flare up of negative energy, deal with complex situation and clear tense atmosphere. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) helps develop immunity to irritants responsible for the negative emotion anger. Go for professional counselling to rein in your anger. 

Fragile relationships

Fragile relationships

Meaningful personalised engagement via deep & substantive conversations rather than superfluous talk builds deep bonds, a prerequisite for a happier relationship. Confidence and content in purposeful polite conversation helps know & truly understand each other & establish a deeper connect for a rewarding relationship. On the other hand complicated relationship generates stressful, emotional & mentally exhausting problems and turns into a constant struggle to let go of distasteful things. Emotional management i.e. identifying what is spoiling the relationship, confronting the situation/person and candid discussion to resolve issues quickly is the need of the hour. Bitterness or grudges in a fragile relationship do not affect the recipient as much as they affect the one harbouring them. Letting go of the pain, anger & guilt felt towards this relationship and allowing feelings of love, joy and acceptance by detaching from past issues is a must. Forgiveness is one of the most powerful gifts one can give each other in most fragile relationship.     

Interaction with Toxic people (bullies) at times is the reason for stress that manifests itself in many ways –insomnia, psychological ailments, depression etc. Consistent exposure corrodes away confidence, makes one skeptical about own capabilities thus results in loss of self belief. One opts for avoidance coping strategies like drinking alcohol to cut down on experiencing frequent negative emotions. Instead one needs professional counselling to learn to deal with own emotions in order to change self to raise own morale and life more exciting.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh