Live a more fulfilling life

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Live a more fulfilling life......

Take a clear look at the life you are living. Do not spend time trying to undo what you have done. Rather, take the responsibility for living your own life. Determine what is most important to you to live an evolving life. Each moment of life has relevance. Invariably our intentions are tied to the past and we try not to repeat what we perceive as mistakes. Dismissing experience as an error or mistake is often misleading.  Each experience, whether positive or negative, leads one to a perspective. Always honor the experience, no matter what. The conflict within self is often caused by dueling voices inside each one of us that cause confusion, reminds one of past mistakes, or cause one to doubt self. Simply ignore and disregard the voices that are judgmental, make you feel ashamed & interfere with your resolve to succeed, it will help you stop being critical of your failures & afraid of success.

Listen to & believe your true inner voice (the voice of understanding, support, self-assurance, love & compassion) which encourages you, gives you hope & pushes you to trust & believe in yourself. It will lessen & even resolve internal conflict, bolster your spirits & urge you to go after your dreams.

Living the ultimate truth of life is engaging self fully in the moment. It allows one to let go of the past better & focus one’s thoughts on the goals that resonate the most strongly within. By being fully present with all that we are & all that we have, we can experience each of our choice fully, make the most fulfilling choices & feel more sure of what we are doing.

Facing inner conflicts ???

Facing inner conflicts ???

One’s vulnerability and desperation should not let others influence making a choice in a hurry that may result in sufferings later pushing one into an unhappy state of mind. Consciously make deliberate choices based on your own positive thoughts to make your desire a reality. One’s discomfort, state of misery, complaining nature does attract others attention but this attention seeking must not be celebrated instead rise above your fear & worry to achieve your purpose in life. Do not keep things to self instead take professional help to fight back, facing conflicts singularly builds tension. 

Mental health - Maintenance.

Mental health - Maintenance.

One can remain aware of the overall emotional well being of children in case he/she engages child via daily conversations that will help one notice behavioral changes like the child becoming irritable & distant, losing interest in activities the child once loved and enjoyed. Child is very observant, his/her behavior develops in accordance with the frequency & degree of exposure to parental arguments & fights, the traumatic & emotional experience at home. One’s own anxieties, fears and depression adversely impacts children hence need to be calmed down. External environment like comparisons with other’s lives, vacation, friends, family, dress etc, exposure to drugs/ alcohol & violence, social isolation etc in society also impacts the child’s mental health. The feeling of belongingness and connectedness, competence, positive feedback, recognition & rewarding experiences enhances a child’s mental wellness. Positive behavior that inculcates self respect, self esteem & trust in self in child helps him/her face difficult situations like bullying & harassment.  Getting stressed in tough and adverse conditions is natural but limiting hampering of one’s sense of satisfaction caused due to irrational exaggeration of expectation from life, avoiding getting trapped in feeling of  helplessness & self pity, appreciating and being grateful for things that are plentiful in life, shifting focus from public approval to personal approval and regular exercise in addition to maintaining good physical health also helps in controlling one’s anger, anxiety and depression, thus maintaining emotional well being.