The expectations (disguised desires) generate conflict. Keep expectations little tempered because high expectations often lead to disappointments. Go with the flow in your struggle to grow own roots. Be patient and don’t give up in the face of frequent rejections. The insecurities, uncertainties and vagaries of life develop unfounded fears and frustration which brings in a state of helplessness and restlessness in mind. The impact is so immense it increases the level of anxiety beyond control and adversely affects mental health. The associated mental & emotional pain aggravates to the extent that one looses sense of well-being.

 Networking online forms indefinite global connections and helps to get broader perspective & guidance in shaping one’s attitude, aptitude and interest. Optimal utilization of social media in order to gain an insight for expanding ideas is a must. The abundant knowledge enhances the thought processing capability after getting exposure to a variety of opinions from experts worldwide. But significant over usage of social media is a huge distraction and makes one lethargic, engrosses into boredom & a person tends to lose creativity. It decreases face to face communication skills resulting in lack of confidence to open up about one’s stress & thus resulting in undisclosed feelings.  Ignoring the loved ones present in real life, one gradually breaks bonds instead of strengthening them. This creates barriers for love; belongingness, compassion, and empathy. The lack of emotional connection makes one hyper & the absence of strong relation makes one feel lonely. This leads the way for anxiety, panic and depression. Fewer think they have been authorized with a license to criticize or be hurtful towards others while expressing resentment. Keep your mental stability in check so that no one plays with your thought process via bullying, name-calling, defaming, body shaming, abuse and harassment, which later on might be a cause for disrupting happiness.

 

The emergent need to restore the state of balance on a mental & emotional level, upset due to thoughts of revenge & animosity (hatred), requires us to be aware, careful & detached so that we don’t hurt ourselves. Expressing the negative energy of anger physically as violent behavior attracts violent response and thus disturbs the balance. Letting go of our own tendency of self-importance allows us to win over the feelings of vulnerability & self-doubt.

 

Dreams to touch new horizons makes you stretch & reinvent self, defy norms and learn. The opportunity to choose freedom to be in a relationship with one who cares to listen & trusts helps to live together in harmony. Love, respect and commitment for each other are the prerequisites to nurture and maintain a healthy flourishing relationship for a happy life. The personality, thoughts & beliefs of partner determines state of mind. Do not try to control, you will generate detachment & disconnect that makes partner step outside resulting in disappointment & frustration. Frustration is a form of fear or anger that makes lose control & dictates one’s response. Express and not suppress intense emotions in an inspiring rather than irritating & intimidating way to navigate through confrontationist situation. Shield self from negativity to retain sanity and positivity while grappling with unforeseen situations. The mind dominated by chaos, confusion, fear & hatred, a kind of negative thinking, makes one hurt partner’s esteem involuntarily inviting equally negative response that leads to developing brittle & toxic relationship over the time.

 

Love and not fear brings peace of mind. Understand and recognize true self to live without confusion that is the cause of sufferings. Our upbringing and education does not teach us who and what we really are but what we want. The ‘want’ generates endless desires forcing egocentric actions resulting in sarcastic behavior and thus experiencing pain of facing boycott. Voluntarily overcoming the inability to resist one’s egocentric actions facilitates alteration in life practices. Life lived without attachment inspires to act with love & compassion nurturing relatedness, a recipe for one’s well being.

 

A counselor is a loving & compassionate person who listens patiently without feeling exhausted even when you keep talking on & on listing your woes in life.  Put in sincere efforts to make correction to your own consciousness to let go the hidden hurt inside for ultimate betterment. Nature of self, the source of tears, does not change in spite of crying out of self-pity about all the pain caused due to experiencing the negativity. Concede to the facts that shadow the truth about thy true self. You believe you know all to be a "winner" in life despite running into conflicts regardless of whom you meet and then say sorry for bad behavior just not to be bothered anymore by those whom you troubled by unpleasant manifestations. You resent your inability to say "No" but blame others for their selfishness subjecting them to hurt & pain by character fault you have mastered to hide. Admit and concede to the facts that you have built an imaginary value in life that holds up as long as others do not disturb your dreams. You seek the company of flatterers and avoid those whose genuine opinion you think will inconvenience you. The conversation ends with you feeling relaxed, inspired & happy.

 

In the pursuit of success & happiness; the human mind, knowingly or unknowingly, is always pre-occupied with racing thoughts because of the societal pressures. Consciously or unconsciously one continues living with this behaviour that is bound to create stress. Examine your thoughts, introspect, decipher strengths & weaknesses, prioritise & stop futile activities. Whatever one gets in surroundings is own creation in the inner state of mind. Past, present, future everything is connected. The past prevents growth and future remains future only. It is the present that matters. Every step must be taken to accomplish the ultimate purpose of our existence i.e true happiness. Consciously seek love, peace & happiness in life. We cannot change people, places or things surrounding us, but we can change ourselves. It takes great effort to change but by taking responsibility for what is in our life, we can change it in a way we like.  Accept everyone & focus on higher state of consciousness, the negative traits will never bother us. Give a break to busy schedule, spend time with loved ones and pursue passion to heal & revitalise self in order to feel the bliss on way to an intrinsic level of joy.  It inspires us from within to enrich self with emotional freedom for self growth. The accomplishment of intended purpose with patience and persistence is rewarding and inspirational.

 

Never at fault, an image cultivated over time, generally holds back the person from admitting own mistakes in a conflicting situation. Instead the person indulges in blame game and starts blaming others. One cannot change people, places or circumstances around but can change self. Accept and take responsibility for the situation you are in and patiently make persistent efforts to alter it the way it shall not bother to have true happiness.

 

Self confidence defines the way an individual takes care of stress, sadness, anxiety, fear, depression & insomnia in a situation beyond control. Nothing happens without a purpose. Our willingness to recognize the mistakes, staying open to a wide range of possibilities & to embrace circumstances helps us take care for our needs. The trust in the significance of lessons of certain experiences helps us choose wisely at each crossroad.  Nurture your dreams without trying to micromanage every detail along the way. The guidance & faith in self propels the progress of personal evolution and makes it a journey of great joy.

Conflicts in intimate relationships reveal themselves slowly, give time. Let yourself be judged without feeling guilty. Listening helps to accept & acknowledge your flaws and flexibility to bend so that you don’t break. Unlearn for self improvement, experiment with being varied selves. Rejection or failure, reward self replenishment and restart.

 

Generally a person does not share disturbing thoughts with anyone because of the fear of being judged. One needs to understand that handling stress by keeping things to self and bottling up is very dangerous.  In such a case the person must seek help and talk to a counselor.  

 A person’s interests, aspirations and motivation are inextricably linked to the identity one acquires in society. Sometimes one voluntarily opts to adopt certain behavior and attitudes in order to conform to society and gain its acceptance. A person having a feeling of belongingness and hope has everything in life. Protect your identity, act smart & be careful of people who are prejudiced and influence your relations

 

Life is unfair, a thought deeply populated in mind because of perceived injustice done makes a person bitter towards life. It stresses the person significantly, causes disruption in daily life and makes the journey difficult & tiring just balancing despair and hope. Individual suffers and struggles with the feeling of hatred, abandonment and loneliness. Avoid getting upset & discouraged by the ill-treatment & harm. One must appreciate that people with positive mindset, optimistic and constructive approach to life are the most sought after and loved one’s.  A life lived free of prejudice taking the pain in stride helps retain a good and sturdy mental health.      

The most exciting phase in life is when one steps out of the comfort zone to achieve one’s dream. Be patient and don’t give up in the face of frequent rejections. Not getting bored with what one is excited about keeps a person interested and engaged. Self awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses helps one rise above feelings, fear and frustration. Affirmative thoughts help to maintain a balanced approach to sufferings, face upheavals calmly and remain motivated to work enthusiastically in order to live a life of contentment & inner peace.

 There is always something in one’s mind, the clutter of recurrent thoughts create anxiety which disturbs inner peace, a state of mental calm and serenity. We interact with a variety of people in life. The influence of interpersonal interactions is either greater joy or hurt. Assigning blame to someone or something responsible, to ease the pain, erodes peace of mind causing great turmoil in life. Learn to be free from anxiety.  It is difficult to successfully divest self of resentful feelings but letting go the hurt shall help move on with life. Shift attention from those we resent, surround self with loving & kind people who nurture & encourage in order to clear away the negative energy that exists around and empower self to infuse & enrich life with understanding and love. A supportive environment shall bring freedom from the suffering.

 Silence and tolerance of familial wrongs turn into hatred with the passage of time.  Never ever yield to something in desperation which later on is going to sit heavy on your conscience and force you into a trail of thoughts robbing you of peace and serenity of mind.  Stick to your values because that is what you are; rather than adapting to something to seek validation or approval of your critics. Doing your way what you are passionate about liberates you of the stress generated by others expectations. Feel grateful for being blessed with learning from life’s experience of facing disapproval, insult and hurt by unkind, narrow minded wrongdoer.