Self-Forgiveness

Child psychologist and Counselor, Chandigarh

Self-Forgiveness

Every human being commits mistake and regrets doing it, but self-forgiveness is important to become a compassionate person. We all go through many things in life that bring pain and hold self/people/situations/GOD accountable for this. By judging oneself and others one develops a mindset that leads to finding fault with everything, criticism and disappointment that elicits strong feeling of anger and pain.

Holding on to the perceived harm/danger, anger and resentment from the unforgivable act makes you go through same pain again and again which is detrimental to the feeling of self-love and thus self-forgiveness. Forgiveness is about letting go. It is not about forgiving someone else but about setting yourself free from that pain. Feel the emotions, release them, move on in life and evolve as a happier and better person.

Acknowledge, take responsibility for mistakes, make amends to not simply get along with others, but so to avoid making the same mistakes in the future. View the mistakes as lessons and overcome victim mentality that impacts your happiness, health, and future. It allows one to live in the present instead of being stuck in the past and deal with the scare that we are going to commit mistakes in the future.