Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor. Chandigarh

Build, develop and maintain self confidence for self acceptance. Over Indulgence in self talk, negative talk or cribbing indicates lowering of self confidence.  Talk to loved ones/close ones, evaluate life experiences & own capabilities impartially, freely express feelings and vent out pent-up emotions to unburden the feeling of helplessness & hopelessness and stop self from taking the path of self abuse & destruction.

Escape thoughts driving to self-inflicting wounds

Escape thoughts driving to self-inflicting wounds;  

Any stress causing incident can generate a sense of dejection which at times can force even an ambitious person turn into a recluse choosing loneliness, isolation & staying indoors in search of sense of calm. The misery, sense of despair & worthlessness is so overwhelming that the individual starts thinking a lot recollecting painful memories of the past and is overpowered by thoughts driving him/her to opt for self-inflicting wounds. A strong social support & physical activity/sport helps the individual escape such thoughts. Resilience and mindfulness is what helps an individual fight & win over such thoughts with courage & hope, seek professional help.       

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandiarh

Accept the reality and respond with kindness. To breakup is difficult yet one must stay away from negativity to protect one’s sanity and insulate self from getting into depression.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Life journey in today’s cut throat competition in the face of rejections at times compels one to grapple with insecurities and uncertainties for survival. The sense of Injustice builds up anger. Negotiating the uncertainties of life requires balancing between personal & professional life. Insecurity associated and felt in the lonely & personal journey demands keeping one’s communication channels remain open.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Each one of us while growing up develops an individualistic perspective and belief about the right way to live life. It makes one struggle silently in order to comply with this belief. It is when this struggle becomes too much to live with that the individual starts thinking that something is inherently wrong with him/her leading to depression/ or anxiety. Despite the achievement of social success, social acceptance & security, as envisaged, one still feels worthless because he/she never indulged in doing things that he/she valued.  The feeling of failure and unworthiness can be nipped in the bud if individuals are accepted the way they are and encouraged to use their own skills & abilities to find solution.         

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Resistance to the troublesome issues in hand stops one from understanding and learning about it. Ignorance, avoidance and running away does not help in getting rid of the issue instead it haunts repeatedly as what one resists, it persists. People, events, and issues that we fear and dislike, appear to be beyond our control and are the manifestations of our non-receptivity. The courageous inner self helps one to surrender and begin the process of opening up to what we fear.

Indulgence in blame game & fault finding is being judgemental that leads one to loneliness. Conversation (sharing and listening), instead of isolation, is the best way to fight back and mitigate the pain. Fight back involves struggle to keep afloat and survive, take professional help.

Be yourself;Love yourself

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor

Each and every individual is a unique character with altogether different attitude & beliefs that define his/her thoughts, words and acts. The endless desires force one to make poor choices at times which in the absence of self regulation results in destructive behaviour. The negative life experiences & one’s unawareness holds back an individual from embracing something new and unfamiliar with open mind thus restricting his/her evolvement & development of a perspective that brings in harmony between what one thinks, says and does. The energy & vibrations of one’s thoughts when tuned in to that of universe rejuvenates the mind. Question yourself how to make right choices to live in peace and harmony. A balanced person loves self, is empathetic, caring and compassionate so be yourself; love yourself.

Observe and act

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor Chandigarh

Someone very close/loved one is feeling low or stressed, talk to him/her to facilitate free expression of feelings and venting out pent-up emotions in order to help him/her lighten the burden. Speak about life experiences and his/her capabilities. Listen patiently, do not judge, express genuine concern, provide emotional support with empathy & understanding to help cope in a better way with his/her feeling of  helplessness & hopelessness. Encourage the person to seek timely professional help for a healthy and happy future. 

Hormones: that enhances human happiness.

Hormones: that enhances human happiness.

1.       Dopamine: The habit of acknowledging, appreciating & rewarding self for each and every small/big achievement helps release of Dopamine & makes one feel good and happy.

2.       Oxytocin: The hugging, holding of hands or putting arms around shoulders of each other releases another happiness enhancing hormone named Oxytocin.

3.       Endorphins: Exercise makes the body release Endorphins to help it cope with the pain of exercising and soon we start enjoying exercise. Exercise for at least half an hour daily is a must for release of endorphins.  

Laughter generated while reading funny stuff or watching comedy is another way to get our day's dose of Endorphins.

4.       Serotonin: The act of sharing, being nice human being and action for the benefit of other human beings/society/nature releases serotonin (another hormone) that determines human happiness.

Not happy in life despite blessed with the best of everything in life. Do not understand the real cause of unhappiness. Just give this a try to stay happy and well prepared to deal with your problems and challenges in life.

DON'T QUIT

DON'T QUIT

All this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing your roots.  Take a clear look at the life you are living. Each and every experience whether positive or negative, has led you to the perspective & spot you are at right now.  Always honor the experience, no matter what. Do not dismiss it as an error or mistake and spend your time trying to undo what you have already done. Rather, change what you are going to do before you do it. Take the responsibility for living your own life. Listen to your inner guidance & focus your thoughts on the goals that resonate the most strongly within you. Do not compare yourself with others. You have a different purpose than others. Determine what is most important to you to live an evolving life. Never Give up. Staying focused and engaged fully in the present moment allows us move with the rhythmic flow of the universe. Take pride in rising as high as you can. Ask your counselor to help you understand what caused the unhappiness.