Acknowledge trauma & pain inflicted by the past wrong doings committed and tender sincere apology & express genuine remorse, remedy for the rapprochement and healing of festering wounds to enhance trust quotient. It may not completely erase past memories yet provides a means to rationalize the process of forgiveness, redress injustice done and closure of past wrong doing. Rejuvenation excursions help one work on body and mind to beat the loneliness in the period engulfed in gross negativity & uncertainty

 

Forgetting negative experiences and forgiving other’s mistake, that made you endure inexplicable pain & sufferings, helps one win over the revengeful behavior that keeps negativity alive & steals one’s peace of mind. An attitude of gratefulness towards others instills compassion, the elixir of peaceful existence, irrespective of their misdeeds. Hope, faith, strength and not panic brings any complex situation under control. Universal truth is “Nothing is permanent, change is evident”.   

 

Trust is a hope that allows a person to be vulnerable with a professional without any fear of judgment. One feels safe to freely & respectfully communicate. Look back and introspect whether it is one off an incident or a regular occurrence which has affected you. If in case whatever transpired is an absolute non-negotiable for you, it is very difficult to fix, but if you are willing to put in sincere efforts to work around, talk about it, express and confront your feelings, it might help to overcome that disrupted the dynamics of life journey.      

 

 

Complexity of life can at times turn an aspiring, calm, composed, sensible, full of hope individual into an emotional wreck with totally shattered self-confidence when forced to lose prime time facing broken dreams. Carve a niche for self by challenging the acquired beliefs & faiths as you grew. Courage of conviction makes one question & defy laid down societal conventions that affect happiness.

Experiencing hot & cold behavior of a person affects adversely. Having attention now and the next moment disdain of a person close to you, it drives you crazy having repeated thoughts thus destroying mental peace completely. One is tricked into thinking “why” and a sense of distress engulfs mental peace. Have direct conversation with the person instead of assuming things and jumping to conclusions. Rather than investing too much time in anyone seeking validation shift focus to your creative pursuits which ensures that you maintain emotional balance and it helps build confidence & self esteem.    

 

 

Feeling ignored without a cause induces a feeling of uncertainty that inflicts discomfort and a sense of emotional pain which shatters the person. The individual with poor communication & problem solving skills and passive personality traits instead of confronting the issue often resorts to shutting off self in own cocoon exhibiting symptoms of minor depression & anxiety. Running away from the problems and going silent might seem a quick & easy solution but it is nothing but devastating option. It disrupts the peace of mind of everyone around such an individual and takes a toll on their emotions also. Be alarmed and speak to a psychologist.

Knowing perfect love – extended courtship lets one take care to get what one likes rather than end up liking what one gets in relationship. Disparate upbringing of partners makes one scrutinize other’s every spoken word & response to situations, learn & unlearn life skills to handle situations. Relationship is all about understanding what irritates one’s partner. We learn that certain situations do not merit reaction, one’s silence is better than meaningless words. Egotistic power – the power to dominate and control other to establish one’s superiority makes you disregard other’s opinion and has adverse consequences. The temptation to nurture one’s inflated ego through self promotion and urge to prove self as special does not let one see the uniqueness of other & appreciate the diverse articulation.     

 

 

The girls and boys grow up witnessing/experiencing abuse both physical & emotional, violence (physical & mental torture), misadventure etc prevailing at home and outside in our society thus imbibe misconceptions about opposite gender. The wrong perceptions/beliefs so developed by adolescents about physical and mental being of opposite gender later on results in difficult emotional adulthood. The need to introduce sex education in school curriculum is now being advocated vociferously. A male psychologist is best qualified professional to counsel both boys and girls as against the prevailing misconception/beliefs in our society. He can explain the misconceptions about opposite gender in a better way as he understands the psychology from both male & female perspective. The concept that girls may have inhibitions about opening up to a male professional is no more valid. Only a male professional can make a female understand male behavior (physical & mental response) in a better way to tide over her core beliefs, doubts & sufferings.