Feelings& Fear - the manifestation of one's mind is the cause of stress.

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Feelings& Fear - the manifestation of one's mind is the cause of stress.

Be patient and don’t give up in the face of frequent rejections. Self awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses results in self realisation and thus helps become own master to create a happy life. Rise above your feelings & fear (the manifestation of your mind) to safeguard against mental turbulence, face upheavals calmly, remain balanced in one’s approach to sufferings and live a life of contentment & inner peace. Accomplish health, happiness & peace through affirmative thoughts in response to one’s frustrations, the cause of stress/tension/anxiety.   

Role of Parents - why is it important ?

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Parents must realise and appreciate that children seek and demand space as they grow. Children have aspirations and dreams to be successful. The minor adjustments and compromises with their beliefs necessitated/forced upon in their course of struggle make them brood and unhappy.  Comparisons, not only with peers but also with faceless on the social media, does not let the child completely accept self with his/her own weaknesses and strengths. A concerned parent must develop understanding/ compromise with own ego and prove to be child’s most trusted friend to let them confide their issues/fears/worries in them in order to fully support the child gain confidence in his/her strengths at the time he/she is going through turmoil due to internal conflicts.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

The most exciting phase in life is when one steps out of his/her comfort zone to achieve one’s dream. Not getting bored with what one is excited about and doing keeps a person interested and engaged. The acceptance of one’s hard work & efforts put in via appreciation, recognition and validation keeps one motivated and enthusiastic to work harder.

Live a more fulfilling life

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Live a more fulfilling life......

Take a clear look at the life you are living. Do not spend time trying to undo what you have done. Rather, take the responsibility for living your own life. Determine what is most important to you to live an evolving life. Each moment of life has relevance. Invariably our intentions are tied to the past and we try not to repeat what we perceive as mistakes. Dismissing experience as an error or mistake is often misleading.  Each experience, whether positive or negative, leads one to a perspective. Always honor the experience, no matter what. The conflict within self is often caused by dueling voices inside each one of us that cause confusion, reminds one of past mistakes, or cause one to doubt self. Simply ignore and disregard the voices that are judgmental, make you feel ashamed & interfere with your resolve to succeed, it will help you stop being critical of your failures & afraid of success.

Listen to & believe your true inner voice (the voice of understanding, support, self-assurance, love & compassion) which encourages you, gives you hope & pushes you to trust & believe in yourself. It will lessen & even resolve internal conflict, bolster your spirits & urge you to go after your dreams.

Living the ultimate truth of life is engaging self fully in the moment. It allows one to let go of the past better & focus one’s thoughts on the goals that resonate the most strongly within. By being fully present with all that we are & all that we have, we can experience each of our choice fully, make the most fulfilling choices & feel more sure of what we are doing.

Facing inner conflicts ???

Facing inner conflicts ???

One’s vulnerability and desperation should not let others influence making a choice in a hurry that may result in sufferings later pushing one into an unhappy state of mind. Consciously make deliberate choices based on your own positive thoughts to make your desire a reality. One’s discomfort, state of misery, complaining nature does attract others attention but this attention seeking must not be celebrated instead rise above your fear & worry to achieve your purpose in life. Do not keep things to self instead take professional help to fight back, facing conflicts singularly builds tension. 

Mental health - Maintenance.

Mental health - Maintenance.

One can remain aware of the overall emotional well being of children in case he/she engages child via daily conversations that will help one notice behavioral changes like the child becoming irritable & distant, losing interest in activities the child once loved and enjoyed. Child is very observant, his/her behavior develops in accordance with the frequency & degree of exposure to parental arguments & fights, the traumatic & emotional experience at home. One’s own anxieties, fears and depression adversely impacts children hence need to be calmed down. External environment like comparisons with other’s lives, vacation, friends, family, dress etc, exposure to drugs/ alcohol & violence, social isolation etc in society also impacts the child’s mental health. The feeling of belongingness and connectedness, competence, positive feedback, recognition & rewarding experiences enhances a child’s mental wellness. Positive behavior that inculcates self respect, self esteem & trust in self in child helps him/her face difficult situations like bullying & harassment.  Getting stressed in tough and adverse conditions is natural but limiting hampering of one’s sense of satisfaction caused due to irrational exaggeration of expectation from life, avoiding getting trapped in feeling of  helplessness & self pity, appreciating and being grateful for things that are plentiful in life, shifting focus from public approval to personal approval and regular exercise in addition to maintaining good physical health also helps in controlling one’s anger, anxiety and depression, thus maintaining emotional well being. 

Healthy conversation…..

Healthy conversation…..

The dialogue punctuated with impatience, accusation, blame & arrogance always embarrasses & puts the other person in a defensive mode thus derailing the conversation from its meaningful direction. An engaged interaction, expressive of intent and willingness to listen, builds trust & lets the other express his/her feelings/thoughts/vulnerability fluently and clearly. One must always listen attentively, acknowledge, understand & appreciate other’s perspective/opinion, not judge but feel his/her pain and focus on desired/constructive behavioural change/correction.