Love happens naturally and the person envisions a beautiful sincere loving relationship. The connection of two minds & hearts, loving each other & relating to one another and having aligned values is healthy relationship. Two things in life can never be changed; the past and partner, hence trying to change partner is completely dishonest. Compassion, care, will to hear, feeling heard & safe, adapting & meeting half way, laughing away the blues, happy thoughts and positive outlook brings in happiness & bliss, the key to a healthy and secure relationship.

 

An individual is powerless over the pain but must not become party to escalation of the sufferings. Peace of mind must be your priority, introspect and going forward embrace the changes. The moment mind starts thinking, planning & fearing for the future and disturbs emotional balance, direct your thoughts to the present issues and deal with them right then. Living in the present moment you shall feel calm. Be grateful for what you have achieved, do not judge, be compassionate for self to remain happy.

 

Inspire & cooperate rather than intimidate & dominate must be parent’s mantra while a child grows up. The child must not be forced to develop a psyche that makes him/her live life just pleasing parents and others, seeking approval & support. This psyche inhibits a child from learning own purpose of life and how to live for self & make self happy. These children, despite being successful and independent, later on in life feel a vacuum inside and start questioning self as to why they act as per other’s expectations pushing them into lot of emotional turmoil.

 

An individual selects the goal of life according to one’s attitude. The progress solely depends on his/her attitude. He/she selects & follows the path to achieve and maintains health according to their attitude. Whether one’s attitude is based on Positive thoughts or on negative thoughts makes a difference of Sky and Earth in life. The person following the positive thoughts and disciplined lifestyle always has to go the long and difficult path but he/she becomes stronger and achieves self confidence.

 

Unpredictability

Any one unpredictable incident, how so ever insignificant, can turn out to be so overwhelming & traumatic that it transforms the individual into a complete emotional wreck. The individual is engulfed by unfounded fears, thinks a lot recollecting painful memories of the past and is overpowered by negative thoughts that cause stress & builds anxiety. The incessant suffering due to the unchecked anxiety leads to depression. Resilience and mindfulness is what helps an individual fight & win over such thoughts with courage & hope. Psychologists & psychotherapists help the individual take positive actions which alter the structure of their emotions leading to maintenance of good mental health.

 

Impactful conversation

Impactful conversation is empathetic, reassuring, refreshes lovely memories and reflects courtesy, concern, care & consideration. Interpersonal conversation, be it with parents, relatives, friends or colleagues, must be healthy & responsive enough to build trust and cultivate a strong bond. Be patient, calm & composed, disengage from distractions & listen attentively, acknowledge, understand & appreciate other’s perspective because sustainability must be the focus of conversation. Spend precious quality time and be there for each other in your own way to help other express vulnerability, share what is happening in life and vent pent up feelings. Accusation, blame, arrogance & being judgmental is embarrassing and does not let one laugh, love, have fun, ignore, fight & make up.  

 

The human ego holds back a person from accepting vulnerability & feeling of uselessness in the face of challenging situation as he/she takes pride in self-sufficiency. However, acceptance & surrender to one’s own limitations & helplessness facilitates seeking timely help from others when the situation so demands. The experience of letting go of the feeling that he/she must be able to do it all by self & accepting help makes one discover humility & gratitude. The human experience of needing others & allowing them to help makes one realize that we are not on our own in the world & a deep feeling of gratitude emerges. A person full of gratitude is happy and more compassionate in service to others.