An individual is powerless over the pain but must not become party to escalation of the sufferings. Peace of mind must be your priority, introspect and going forward embrace the changes. The moment mind starts thinking, planning & fearing for the future and disturbs emotional balance, direct your thoughts to the present issues and deal with them right then. Living in the present moment you shall feel calm. Be grateful for what you have achieved, do not judge, be compassionate for self to remain happy.