Beware of toxic friendship

Toxic friendship

Humans are vibrational beings. Positive people are high vibrational beings and their company propels us onwards and upwards whereas negative people/Toxic people are low vibrational beings and their company is energetically draining that pulls us down thus directly affecting our success & happiness. You should not keep holding on to the company of negative people just because you are a loving & compassionate person.

We naturally grow & evolve as we mature & experience life. Our friendships must adapt accordingly. While it is admirable to develop lifelong friendships, the truth is, people change and everyone does not take responsibility for the life they live. Toxic friends, when not happy, tend to pull everyone around them down too. Friends who disrespect your time, complain rather than solve problem, gossip, show constant negativity, are jealous and believe in taking instead of giving are the toxic ones however this is not about the friend that goes through a rough spot, needs some extra time and attention once a while. Trust your heart, have courage to do little pruning and clear your life of toxic friendships. It is worth the wait for like-minded people to come into your life. Toxic friends are easy to identify once you know what to look for.

So ask yourself:

1. Do you feel exhausted after spending time with them?

The brief innocuous conversation ends with you feeling tired and drained.

2. You are unable to say a word during the conversation?

You are not actually having a conversation. You are just listening to their complaints and list of woes in life. This is not about a friend in need or one going through transition, it is about those people who talk at you rather than with you - all of the time.  

3. Do they respect your time?

They keep talking on & on even when you have said you are busy and cannot talk right now.

4. How do you feel physically?

While talking to someone, in that moment, do you feel relaxed, inspired & happy or are you holding your breath and looking desperately for a way to break the conversation.

5. Are you caught in the gossip trap?

Gossip might make you feel bonded to a friend, but it is draining. Participating in gossip leaves you feeling terrible at the end. Chances are they will eventually gossip about you anyways, so protect yourself.

6. Do you withhold positive news from them so they are not jealous?

True friends are happy when your life is going well whereas Toxic friends are jealous and will compare their own life to yours instead of celebrating your wins.