Faith and optimism builds self confidence – Belief in self.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Faith and optimism builds self confidence – Belief in self.

Suppression experienced in Childhood is one of the reasons one lives in fear mode. The mental, emotional & physical health of the kids depends upon the degree of confidence in self, essential for them to be in a state of calm and happiness. Treating kids gently without being critical of their actions inculcates confidence that helps kids grow without worrying about whether they are good enough or deserving. Teach the kids to shun the habit of developing an unhealthy attitude of making comparisons. Comparisons make kids feel bad about themselves thus adversely affects their self esteem & motivation thus forcing them into self doubts, unhealthy food habits & lack of fitness routine.

Leading a virtual life?

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Leading a virtual life?

Family & society thrives upon a feeling of social relatedness developed through frequent face to face interactions that inculcates values like courteous behaviour, compassion, patience, selflessness, responsibility and respect in human beings. In current times the over indulgence of young as well as old with digital world (virtual world) on one’s smart phone is limiting one’s social interactions within family as well as outside world thereby resulting in isolation from real world thus affecting mind & behaviour. The self centeredness & loneliness developed is resulting in lessened belonging, heightened stress & aggression levels, depression, physical abuse, deteriorating relationships and loss of peace.

Sight or thought of something one holds dear, generates a pleasurable emotion but attainment/fulfilment of desire generates feeling of satisfaction, love, delight and pleasure the basic characteristics of happiness. Disentangle self from illusory pleasures. Social structure and peer pressure contribute to personality development. One must perform to one’s best capability for a successful life. Self discipline i.e maintaining balance between work & free time to be with one’s true self, regular exercise, meditation, healthy food habits & remaining optimist are a must to face challenges/adversities without any anxiety to experience better circumstances, better health, and healthy relationships to create & lead blissful life.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Think before you speak.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Think before you speak.

In case heading towards an awkward conversation respond carefully and wisely. The disruptive and destructive attitude spoils the relationships. Suppress your own feelings, make an excuse and slip out or get away from the conversation at that moment. Do not judge on one time basis, evaluate and if regular affair make a sincere effort, talk/discuss/express emotions later without being emotionally reactive before situation gets out of hand. The insecurity in us makes us defensive and reactive rather than accepting other’s view point and being receptive to the criticism with dignity. Listen, acknowledge, appreciate, pause, introspect without prejudice and speak courteously, friendly, politely clearly and firmly devoid of hurt, blame and accusations.        

A Child

Anmol Singh-Psychologist and Counselor, Chandigarh

Being sensitive, appreciating and giving complete attention to the efforts put in, is what every child relishes. Provide him/her space/opportunity to embrace and love self in order to motivate & make the child believe positively in his/her achievement, how-so-ever minuscule it may be, at the end of putting in all the efforts and hard work. Let him/her celebrate failure also, it will stop the child from losing his/her morale and gives him/her the drive to perform better and remain happy. It also strengthens the bond thus improves relationship & communication and in turn makes his/her growing up more enjoyable.       

Do not get stuck, move on.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Do not get stuck, move on.

Growing up is a journey doing different things, seeking attention while connecting with others in a deeper way to understand how one wants to live.  In due course one’s ambitions & expectations evolve with experience, priorities change, things turn sour & relationship breaks. One develops deep remorse over the broken relationship and in order to cope with heartbreak develops a state of mind when he/she starts feeling low due to persistent sadness and loss of interest. Be aware that in the pursuit to how you want to live, your own happiness is what you deserve the most. Remain confident, optimist, take the situation as a challenge, spend time with nature and pursue your passion to distract your attention from the situation.  

Listen patiently to your child

Listen patiently to your child

Parents – please hear the child patiently instead of giving your judgement. The spoken words and actions impact a child. Be attentive, sensitive, considerate and receptive to their feelings and express your ideas & view point devoid of pre-conceived assumptions, anticipation, expectations & your own perceptive. Encourage, acknowledge & be supportive of them rather than responding emotionally. Emphasis on your own feelings, opinion & experience while interacting with child shifts the focus from his/her subject and makes him feel less valued.