Master your personal life

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Excessive use of smart phones, social media, work pressure, relationship issues all brings one under unprecedented stress. Learn to discipline self & change your thought process to empower self to be aware of whole new world of possibilities & help you determine & control the direction of destiny. Let go and release the past resentments, suppressed feelings, guilt, anger & inherent fears making you uncomfortable. Persistent negative thoughts like judging self, others & personal experiences, over indulgence with addictive behavior to run away from reality creates anxiety & depression. Today’s young generation is a knowledgeable lot & seeks understanding, not taunts. They need professional help to understand both physical & emotional aspects to master personal life.  

Mindfulness

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Mindfulness

Mindfulness, means to be fully present in the here and now, for mental health and well being is slowly gaining foothold in today’s fast paced world. It empowers an individual to overcome the ever consuming thoughts of anger, fear, desire, despair, longing or regret & thus understand one’s own physical, mental and emotional state. The real/correct perspective so gained helps to heal, transform and nourish. Pause, relax and be aware of the present moment, your feelings, emotions in order to get a grip on your response, as one’s response to challenges makes all the difference. The fast paced life is affecting children also. Children are hyper-active and suffer short attention spans. They need to be taught to carry out any activity, be it eating, walking, reading or listening with entire focus to raise them as capable adults who will be in control of their emotions.      

Anxious ?

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Anxious?

Anxiety builds up when an individual starts worrying constantly about the unknown future rather than keeping one’s mind in the present moment. It is natural to be anxious due to one’s insecurities - questions like what will happen? what will be the future like?. But suffering incessantly the unchecked anxiety due to one’s confused emotions fearing the uncertainty of future leads to depression.  The impermanence of events/circumstances that keep on changing from time to time needs to be understood & made the foundation stone of life’s perspective. It shall leave no room for unfounded fears and hence the anxiety & depression. Be aware of the negative emotions; remain engaged in stress relieving activities like meditation; exercise; hobby etc.  

The power of thought – Dream, Believe and Achieve.

The power of thought – Dream, Believe and Achieve.

An individual must take complete responsibility to establish balance between his/her two opposite conflicting intentions possible & impossible i.e the most important thought and the most inconsequential thought. Rapidly shifting thoughts are responsible for all that goes on within us. Break the boundary of mind restrictive circumstances, expand mind to suit your imagination as what one perceives can be conceived.  It is said reality matches assumptions hence improve self image & self confidence essential to build a positive perception enabling you make right choice for a new experience. Adhere to the belief that you are not weak and vow to achieve harmony between your active & passive self via your will power and creativity.    

Suffering Isolation & Loneliness - why?

Disintegration of childhood/adolescent close friend circle due to geographical dislocation because of profession, break down of joint family system & small family norms is pushing individuals into social isolation, living alone & suffer from loneliness till such time the person is able to re-establish his/her identity amongst the community & strike real friendships for much needed person to person connect. The prolonged loneliness & lack of people to people connect proves to be an emotional & psychological drain resulting in development of mental disorders like mood blues, anxiety, depression and suicidal tendency. The person gets entrapped in enhanced virtual digital connect on social media, addictive behavior like smoking, drinking, drugs etc. to cope up with the stress thus affecting his/her mental & physical health. Effective professional psychological counseling, robust social support system, bonding with family & extended family helps the person talk without inhibition, spending time with nature/outdoors, pursuing passion/hobby, joining cultural organizations and indulgence in social service helps the person find new friend circle to cope with his/her isolation and loneliness.     

Speak to Psychologist at the earliest

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

The human preferences, the likes or dislikes, desiring better conditions paves the way for new perspectives & improvement in life. The function of mind is to judge and make choices but when it is personalized to judge self and identified with, the individual ends up feeling confused & self-critical thus the suffering from mental disorders. The preoccupation and obsession with thoughts of fear/negativity terrifies & develops into phobia. The ensuing discomfort, pressure & desperation makes one try to get back to comfort zone at any cost… including sacrificing long-term health, happiness & success. Mental disorders like depression & anxiety must not be more embarrassing than any other ailment. Identify, accept, admit and talk about the issue with support group/Psychologist/Counselor. Reinvent self, think more clearly, have positive outlook, let go the negativity, express your uniqueness through your desires/preferences & get your lives back on track. Living in the moment truly makes one live.

GOD has a plan then why bother?

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Facing emotional moments ranging from love to crisis to anger, anxiety & nervousness is inevitable as we grow. Embrace, enjoy what life offers at the present moment, be grateful for the all the good times and have fun. Indulge in activities that keep you optimistic. GOD has a plan then why bother? Life’s a struggle, conditions may be against you at present but rather than giving up, have patience & faith, work to your full potential with courage, dignity and grace. Circumstances do change for individuals who compassionately empathise with self. What brings smile on one’s face is the feeling of happening life and being alive.

Change in perspective

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

There are times when gloom causes one to momentarily lose sight and feel like life is at a standstill. Repeated bouts of adversity are an unavoidable aspect of human existence. Stagnation is often a sign that great changes are on the horizon. Trust, perseverance, inner faith & renewed confidence in own capabilities, creativity helps overcome the anxiety about the ability to succeed.  Not bothering about the future keeps one just where one needs to be—fully committed & in the present moment. Remain fully engaged in the day at hand, enjoying all it has to offer & putting energy into making the most of it & wait for the time when everything shall be in its perfect place. Listen to inner guidance & focus thoughts with fresh perspective on the goals that resonate the most strongly within to be perfectly ready & capable to handle future. Remain calm & continue to battle against inner struggles to emerge stronger & better equipped to cope with the challenges. Self examination, adjustments and change in perspective, behavior, or response helps one to prepare for the right opportunity.

Consult Counselor - It helps live a balanced life.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Today’s fast paced competitive environment burdens an individual with multi-faceted responsibilities. The experience makes the person develop a point of view, opinions, fear of rejection, complaints, angry, distracted leading to his/her drift away from being connected. They need to be talked to and heard with respect, consideration, understanding of their point of view without letting the conversation get a bit argumentative.  A counselor makes a sincere effort to know what is going on in his/her life, feelings that are bothering reassuring the person of being understood of their point of view via patient listening with attention, appreciation and acknowledgement of their opinions helping the individual open up. Regular counselling sessions helps an individual live a balanced life.

Self confidence - key to happy, healthy and successful life.

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Self confidence - key to happy, healthy and successful life.

Self confidence, an imperative quality that helps lead a successful personal & professional life, is of utmost importance to sustain mental and emotional well being. Belief in self propels one to take on life challenges head on without worrying/fearing the outcome. Self love, valuing self & own capabilities, staying hydrated, adequate sleep, healthy diet & regular exercise boosts confidence which helps one to embrace self doubts without being too self critical. Indulge in talking to self, give self good & meaningful suggestions to combat negative thoughts and move ahead.  Self compassion is the key to a happy, healthy and successful life.