Social media - the demerits

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Increased social media use by adolescents exposes them to varying situations that frequently trigger emotions which generates a feeling of either happiness, excitement & joy or sadness aggression & hysterical. The situation that makes one sad & aggressive compels him/her to over analyze the situation putting him/her under unwarranted pressure thus one losing composure. The internal strain generated due to the feeling of one’s reputation at stake sets in anxiety. Actually it is not the situation but one’s inability to handle the situation that causes anxiety which in turn clouds one’s logical thinking. In such an adverse situation one need not be apologetic, take criticism in right spirit, neither being too emotional nor too controlled and remain courteous and considerate to self.

Put in your best efforts because mediocre efforts give mediocre results. Limit your digital media exposure (television, computer, mobile etc) for a better chance of success. Silence is golden as it provides ‘me’ time for introspection that lets one learn invaluable life’s lessons hence do spend some time by self all alone in solitude. Strongly visualize the positive outcomes of your long term dreams to remain motivated.

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Psychological well being

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Psychological well being is affected due to the stress permeating into personal life because of lot of pressure experienced on account of one’s lifestyle thus adversely affecting interpersonal relationships. Adequate sleep, proper diet, regular exercise and owning a healthy social support system helps maintain mental health. One needs to set realistic doable goals, effectively manage time & prioritize one’s act to maintain a balance between societal demands and personal life. Leading a life trapped in vicious cycle of hectic & monotonous routine is depressive, reward yourself regular short vacations to de-stress, rejuvenate and refresh. Step back, introspect the reasons of turmoil, accept your limitations, commit & focus efforts on realistic doable & achievable short term goals and don’t let distractions de-motivate you.  Be realistic in self evaluation; avoid getting trapped in unrealistic high or optimistic expectations, keeping external factors that are not in your control in mind, to avoid experiencing chaos and confusion.     

How to conduct in life.

Worrying is lack of faith in one’s abilities leading to living in fear, a self created misery. Self confidence helps one win over the unwarranted fear. Awareness & acceptance of one’s inherent weakness helps a self confident person work towards overcoming these weaknesses.  One’s attitude with respect to self image – if it is negative creates negative thoughts pushing one towards negative outcome whereas if it positive it shall create positive thoughts resulting in positive reality because the energy one generates from within changes the circumstances. Expecting the best from oneself keeping the self pity at an arm’s length, visualizing the best scenario, working on new ways to deal with emotions while valuing one’s life, positive affirmations to be happy at all times is the way one must conduct in life.           

Love relationship issues

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Love relationship issues

A healthy relationship to live happily side by side depends on the degree of commitment between partners. The reality of life is two individuals join together because of similarities but unfortunately start focusing on the differences once commit to each other.  The understanding & compromises necessitated due to different temperaments, irrespective of the deep love & devotion for each other, adversely affects the commitment for each other. The fear of repeat of hurt due to inadvertent mistakes of partner, insecurity on account of developing thought of loss of identity while conforming to partner’s expectations, intolerance exhibited towards one’s behavior, misplaced priorities & absence of affection, attachment & appreciation by partner, experiencing humiliation, insult or bullying by partner results in emotional pain & disruption in trust that over the time lessens the commitment in a healthy relationship. The counseling session with a therapist helps the individual understand his/her thought process and anxiety associated with it to rebuild the broken trust in order to overcome the trust deficit between partners.     

Examination stress

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Examination stress

Each one of us experience examination stress but the level/degree is what matters. In order to keep it at the lowest, start and prepare from the day one of session. Schedule a subject wise study plan while remaining realistic about how much you can study each day. Concentrating for hours is very difficult, take a short break when your mind starts wandering. Every morning when you get up visualize how you would like to stay calm and confident, remain motivated & do not procrastinate for effective study. Still feel pressure, open up to a family member or a friend or a professional.