Word of genuine appreciation motivates children to excel.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Word of genuine appreciation motivates children to excel.

Experience of being appreciated is memorable and heightens the zeal to excel. Human mind yearns for recognition and praise. Invariably parents care for their kids but often find it difficult to praise them in public or even in private. The reason behind is a pattern of behaviour learnt while growing up in a family. Their own upbringing denied them an opportunity to ingrain the art of appreciation in behaviour as praise has not been in the household’s vocabulary of bringing up a child.  Just unlearn the practice of withholding genuine praise, be specific and promptly praise, at the right time, your kid for his/her achievement worth appreciation. The honest compliment received by the kid makes him/her feel important, generates a warm feeling that brings a natural smile on face and motivates to go the extra mile.      

Joy – the ultimate purpose of our existence

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Joy – the ultimate purpose of our existence

Generally certain level of anxiety creeps in human mind when one weighs/views one’s past/future respectively in terms of desires and hopes. One feels overwhelmed with anxiety resulting in shift of one’s ultimate focus away from true intrinsic goal i.e. happiness or joy.

The initial high of excitement motivates but wears off slowly, think progressively and find new avenues of interest for constant engagement and.  Minimise negativity and keep right attitude and perspective.  

Feel proud of your achievements, be grateful for what you have and be contented, live in the moment, do not analyse much and enjoy the present. Believe in self, maintain high self esteem, focus on better prospects and pursue with positive attitude, perspective, faith and diligence to be in true and natural state of happiness.

Risk suffering from depression

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Risk suffering from depression.

Do you

1.      Observe you are no more interested in activities you once enjoyed?

2.      Having problem with sleep? (Insomnia or oversleep)

3.      Feel having low energy? (Tiredness)

4.      Feel sluggish and agitated? (Anxiety)

5.      Have difficulty in concentrating?

6.  Experience changes in your appetite/ body weight? (Increased craving for food or poor appetite)/(body weight gain/body weight loss)

7.      Feel hopeless & worthless?(Guilty)

8.      Have the frequent thoughts of ending life? (suicide)

It is symptomatic of depression. Immediately consult professional.

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Looking after an elderly patient in family ??

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Looking after an elderly patient in family ??

Credit yourself for the immense patience, sacrifices and perseverance exhibited in taking over the responsibility of taking care of elderly patient in the family.  The activity carried out single handed is overwhelming and generates feeling of despair and disappointment leading to depression. One cannot accomplish everything alone hence stay connected with other family members for help when required.   Network with persons in similar situation, share your concerns, seek support and get some tips. Organise systematically the requisite information/documentation related to ailment to enable easy and comfortable retrieval to avoid panic attacks. Take a break when required for much needed rest to recharge yourselves, paying attention to other things in your life including your physical & emotional health.

Never do anything unpleasant to your child

Anmol Singh - Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Never do anything unpleasant to your child.

The unpleasant words spoken and rude behaviour exhibited while interacting with children adversely damages/dents their self worth.   Every child is unique and different hence make no comparisons. Show respect and consideration, be careful do not blame. Human experience makes one forget what good you did to him/her but not how one felt. Careless treatment meted out, comparison between siblings and peers at school hurts the belief of a child and conditions his/her brain to believe in the criticism. Interact setting positive expectations it shall boost their self esteem and hence performance.  

Examination phobia– it is time for students to beat stress

Psychologist and Counselor, Chandigarh

Examination phobia– it is time for students to beat stress

The fear of approaching examination makes students anxious and builds stress. It adversely affects the preparation and thus academic performance. Lack of completion of syllabus, apprehension about retention and non clarity of concepts are some of the factors that make the student pessimistic about his/her success and thus affects results.

Students must identify the factors of his/her fear, seek guidance of parents, teachers, professional & friends to allay the fear and overcome the problem to gain confidence. Assess your capabilities, resources and be practical in determining your own goal instead of comparing with friends. Plan your study hours and stick to preparation schedule, work hard, put in sincere efforts to go thoroughly through the syllabus.

Do not panic, lose patience and get frustrated, calm your mind, be firm & believe in your strength, remain motivated, the thoughts of rejection must never cross your mind.      

A resolute mind – need of the hour

A resolute mind – need of the hour

The failure of one’s best intentions to better life must not deter him/her from sticking to the chosen path for real life changes. Promise yourself little at a time; narrow down on specifics of the desired change, work on things under your control, keep constant watch on progress & reward yourself at every goal achieved, remain motivated, be truthful, admit shortcomings in your efforts and seek help of support group/professional to remain on track for positive change.