Observe and act

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor Chandigarh

Someone very close/loved one is feeling low or stressed, talk to him/her to facilitate free expression of feelings and venting out pent-up emotions in order to help him/her lighten the burden. Speak about life experiences and his/her capabilities. Listen patiently, do not judge, express genuine concern, provide emotional support with empathy & understanding to help cope in a better way with his/her feeling of  helplessness & hopelessness. Encourage the person to seek timely professional help for a healthy and happy future. 

Hormones: that enhances human happiness.

Hormones: that enhances human happiness.

1.       Dopamine: The habit of acknowledging, appreciating & rewarding self for each and every small/big achievement helps release of Dopamine & makes one feel good and happy.

2.       Oxytocin: The hugging, holding of hands or putting arms around shoulders of each other releases another happiness enhancing hormone named Oxytocin.

3.       Endorphins: Exercise makes the body release Endorphins to help it cope with the pain of exercising and soon we start enjoying exercise. Exercise for at least half an hour daily is a must for release of endorphins.  

Laughter generated while reading funny stuff or watching comedy is another way to get our day's dose of Endorphins.

4.       Serotonin: The act of sharing, being nice human being and action for the benefit of other human beings/society/nature releases serotonin (another hormone) that determines human happiness.

Not happy in life despite blessed with the best of everything in life. Do not understand the real cause of unhappiness. Just give this a try to stay happy and well prepared to deal with your problems and challenges in life.

DON'T QUIT

DON'T QUIT

All this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing your roots.  Take a clear look at the life you are living. Each and every experience whether positive or negative, has led you to the perspective & spot you are at right now.  Always honor the experience, no matter what. Do not dismiss it as an error or mistake and spend your time trying to undo what you have already done. Rather, change what you are going to do before you do it. Take the responsibility for living your own life. Listen to your inner guidance & focus your thoughts on the goals that resonate the most strongly within you. Do not compare yourself with others. You have a different purpose than others. Determine what is most important to you to live an evolving life. Never Give up. Staying focused and engaged fully in the present moment allows us move with the rhythmic flow of the universe. Take pride in rising as high as you can. Ask your counselor to help you understand what caused the unhappiness.  

Overpower your fears

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

The current state of helplessness and restlessness is a natural state of mind but is bound to adversely affect some of us. Mental health getting affected due to the prevailing anxiety, fear and uncertainty in mind is inevitable. Lift self above the limitations of mind such as the thoughts of negativity, misery, failure and frustration before these become a mental pattern. The inner belief inherent to self manifests and influences one’s life hence overpower your fears.   

Feelings& Fear - the manifestation of one's mind is the cause of stress.

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Feelings& Fear - the manifestation of one's mind is the cause of stress.

Be patient and don’t give up in the face of frequent rejections. Self awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses results in self realisation and thus helps become own master to create a happy life. Rise above your feelings & fear (the manifestation of your mind) to safeguard against mental turbulence, face upheavals calmly, remain balanced in one’s approach to sufferings and live a life of contentment & inner peace. Accomplish health, happiness & peace through affirmative thoughts in response to one’s frustrations, the cause of stress/tension/anxiety.   

Role of Parents - why is it important ?

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Parents must realise and appreciate that children seek and demand space as they grow. Children have aspirations and dreams to be successful. The minor adjustments and compromises with their beliefs necessitated/forced upon in their course of struggle make them brood and unhappy.  Comparisons, not only with peers but also with faceless on the social media, does not let the child completely accept self with his/her own weaknesses and strengths. A concerned parent must develop understanding/ compromise with own ego and prove to be child’s most trusted friend to let them confide their issues/fears/worries in them in order to fully support the child gain confidence in his/her strengths at the time he/she is going through turmoil due to internal conflicts.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

The most exciting phase in life is when one steps out of his/her comfort zone to achieve one’s dream. Not getting bored with what one is excited about and doing keeps a person interested and engaged. The acceptance of one’s hard work & efforts put in via appreciation, recognition and validation keeps one motivated and enthusiastic to work harder.