Self love…..is important

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Self love…..is important

Loving self without feeling selfish & guilty, maintaining self respect, being honest & polite but assertive in one’s expression must be the way of life. Being humble and considerate does not mean to be apologetic. It is said one can never make others truly happy till one is happy himself/herself from within. Be true & honest in self, stretching one’s limits to please others generate undue expectations compelling one to go into depression at some point in life.  

Healthy friendly relationship……

Healthy friendly relationship……

Life is beautiful & purposeful when one is grounded, calm & composed, thinks and then reacts, goes with flow while the relationship struggle continues. One gets attracted to a personality but don’t try to copy others. Be self, patience, acceptance, transparency and trust in each other works towards developing a healthy friendly relationship to a stage when both of you are around each other, none of you needs anyone else. A relaxed and laid back partnership permits one to laugh, love, fight & make up, have fun, ignore and have serious conversations.    

Impactful interaction/conversation is one that reflects courtesy, empathetic concern/consideration, care and is crucial for developing mutual rapport/strengthening relationship so listen attentively, disengage from distractions. One’s way of living is an expression of the individual. Stay positive, express yourself and look for the highest purpose at everything you do. Feel empowered as no one else can make you feel empowered. Confident inner self is a must for peace of mind. Half the battle is lost when one feels undeserving.

Keep marching on the chosen path….

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Keep marching on the chosen path….

One grows up with certain desires/dreams. Life’s challenges experienced while coping up with one’s daily lives, at times results in set in of disillusions and undermines one’s confidence. One needs to draw a plan of actions (mental map), commit & involve self in the process to guide/direct self, minimize procrastination & avoid deviations from the chosen path for the accomplishment of one’s dreams. Prioritizing one’s actions that are in synch with one’s perspective of accomplishment inspires, renews and reaffirms one’s determination. Consistently work on the plan of ultimate importance without distractions, on the way doing something meaningful & different that influences life in a positive manner, for a stress free and joyous existence in reality.     

Guilt......

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Guilt......

Guilt, a negative emotion – a feeling of having wronged someone close, shakes one’s confidence and inner strength leading to losing peace of mind. In pursuit of career, ignoring someone close who were your strength during childhood and frequent arguments with someone you had deep emotional bond because of the difference in ways you think & live leaves one to regret his/her behavior. Spending time together, speaking as and when viable, non-interference in their way of life and avoiding unsolicited advice may result in a healthy and happy relationship thus allowing you to have fun & live a healthy & guilt less life. 

Start day with positivity…

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Start day with positivity…

Investing time and effort in your project needs physical and mental strength i.e a healthy mind and body in other words your state of mind. Parents and children have a special bond, their moods and emotions depict the harsh reality and are thought provoking but one should always endeavour to focus on positivity. Growing up must be a journey full of learning each day.  First thing in the morning one must do is exercise and keep self away from the clutter of information on social media to avoid unwarranted pressure. Respond positively to the beauty of people and nature around you to be happy and avoid getting hurt.        

keep it simple

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Life tests one’s limits every now and then through ups and downs. Change if does not happen is definitely disappointing. Everyone is different and makes different choices. Just dreaming is not enough it requires hard work to get success, don’t remain divorced from the issue. Everyone has the ability to master one’s own destiny, stay motivated and focused. Strike a balance between work and life, keep it simple and do take time out for self to stay alive while being there for family and friends.

Manage your feelings and strike a balance.

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Manage your feelings and strike a balance.

Interactions/conversations must be a pleasant experience. Fear & anxiety/stress holds you back from making a realistic assessment of situation, a must for saving conversations/interactions from turning argumentative. Consideration and courtesy helps check your emotions from running wild in an emotionally charged situation. One must be assertive & firm while telling the other person when he/she is wrong but in a polite tone. Manage your emotion, be empathetic rather than ecstatic so that you don’t annoy the other person & spoil the mood.

To be relaxed, happy and peaceful……

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

To be relaxed, happy and peaceful……

Change the way you think to stimulate present and transform your dreams into reality to live stress free life. Take control of life and don’t wait for something special to happen to empower life. Ruminating over the past & worrying about the future rather than appreciating & being grateful to the beautiful & relaxing moment at present doesn’t let you to be in relaxed state of mind. Consistent & constant gratitude, thankfulness and compassion for every single moment of happiness experienced each day rather than focusing on dissatisfaction in everything one does brings in positivity and adds value to one’s life.     

Manage your anger

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Manage your anger

While being deeply in love with partner you may be dealing with lot of issues and unable to control anger bursts but feels embarrassed later. In case want to sort this pattern of yours let professional therapist make an assessment, identify the triggers and chart out a plan of action/goals to help you manage & address the issue. Initially the progress may be slow and may take time but the change does happen.

SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder  

      

It is onset of winter; experiencing mood swings, feeling less energetic & depressed. Feel like sleep longer, lethargic, sad, and irritable; do not fear but manage carefully & diligently the change in mind & mood to avoid consequences of hindrance in your day to day tasks leading to low productivity. Go for regular exercise, deep breathing, yoga, morning & evening walks, instead of drinks, smoking, excess tea & coffee opt for balanced diet, fresh fruit juices and seek professional help to overpower seasonal affective disorder (SAD).       

Maintain a happy relationship?

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Maintain a happy relationship?

Life is an emotional journey that influences one at personal level, lived positively, helps one grow into a loving human being who spreads happiness in a relationship. Change is always difficult proposition; it is scary, thrilling but lot of fun. Love, fight, share transparently to each other howsoever small or big the issue may be, adjust to small imperfections, spend maximum time together, be there for each other through thick and thin and do have a me time to understand the worthiness of the other & bring in freshness in your relationship.     

Consciously manage your worry & stress.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Consciously manage your worry & stress.

Like coin has two faces human being also is either optimist or pessimist. Pessimist’s negative and self defeating thoughts always make him/her fear negative outcomes losing conscious awareness of their own power thus getting engulfed in negative thought patterns that put him/her under constant worry & stress. Optimist’s positive attitude creates dynamic awareness of his/her inherent worry patterns resulting in adopting positive thoughts that helps them consciously control the negative thoughts thus halting them from getting into negative thought cycle. It is said "what one conceives & aspires Universe conspires to create the same outcome". Make a conscious effort to shift your negative thought energy vibrations to positive thought energy vibrations to reverse your negative patterns to enter into positive energy zone. Let go of the past, feel relaxed in present, trust in your own being & future, consider adverse situation temporary & look for solution to help you consciously manage your worry & stress.

Life is beautiful, live it to the fullest.

Life is beautiful, live it to the fullest.

It is important to be stress free, stay positive and not hold any grudges to stay in one’s mind. Remain connected to reality, trust your instincts, set target for self, challenge & push self to realize your vision. Ignore the displeasure & unsolicited advice expressed around you, be humble & cautious in ways while making sense of others, pause & reflect before arriving at conclusion, only one knows one’s problems and only he/she can deal with them. The situation and environment around you does influence one’s behavior. Pay attention only to your little achievements.

Love is Divine.

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Love is Divine.

Love is a sacred feeling felt between two individuals who are involved & invested. One’s positive attitude to never give up, sense of humour, loyalty and friendship does inspire the other.  Certain acts of ours, though unintentional, hurt other’s sentiments and generate unwarranted controversies but it is a part & parcel of our growing up. It is natural to get angry when other tries to tease or make unnecessary comments but one has to be introvert to discuss with self whatever good or bad things happened and gain strength.

Facing emotional turmoil – Counseling helps

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor Chandigarh

Facing emotional turmoil – Counseling helps

Plunge into and overcome your fears. One who battles with one’s emotions but presents a happy go lucky face is sad, unhappy deep down and seeks solace in alcohol, drugs etc. One’s emotions are directly proportionate to the one’s internal wellness i.e a harmonious relationship between inner self and outer world. An optimum internal wellness is achieved via living a balanced life by integrating one’s mind, body and spirit. The behavior & actions must be directed towards pursuit of one’s physical & mental health, positive interactions with society, spending me time in solitude for inner dialogue to understand & get a deeper sense for relaxation & rejuvenation, addressing the issues that need more attention, acknowledging & expressing the feelings of anger, fear, sadness regularly to let go the negative emotions. It is challenging but is a must for living a happy, healthy and meaningful life.     

Success & Failure

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor

Success and failure are part and parcel of life as one wades through ups and downs. Failures & setbacks must not bog one down and make him/her restless. Surviving the failure is the need of the hour. Remain strong, confident, relaxed and patient to put up a fight to the unfavorable & adverse conditions. Invest in yourself, choose a goal and set your mind on it, work hard with the belief nobody is going to stop you from achieving goal. Reality is never hidden as such one cannot stop comparisons as such comments that are not vindictive or negative must be respected.  Share your life experiences with family members & support group. Both as a parent and as a child one must share meals and play time with one’s kids and parents respectively to live a sane and balanced life.