Importance of Counselling

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Importance of Counselling

The uncertainties in life do derail the outcome, as envisaged & expected, of one’s thoughts and actions. The emotional response in such a situation at times is nasty and violent behaviour that adversely impacts own self. The internal mental conflicts pressurize the individual so overwhelmingly that he/she starts exhibiting sudden/unexplained mood swings, social isolation from friends & family members, hopelessness, helplessness, anxiety, anger and over indulgence in alcohol/drug abuse. The observance of suspicious behaviour/sudden change in individual’s personality indicates he/she might risk mental health. A counselor provides an environment in which the individual feels safe to express his/her feelings uninhibitedly without fear of being judged & stigmatised, learn & develop the much needed healthier coping mechanism to deal with mental conflicts. The session with counselor helps the individual re-evaluate, reconsider his/her opinions and end up learning adaptive coping mechanisms to deal with their stress.               

Counsel for Love & Breakup

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh 

Love happens naturally and the person envisions a beautiful sincere loving relationship/partnership but after blissful courtship for sometime witnessing absence of reciprocation & rejection in love at some point later hurts miserably. It leads to despair and hopelessness. A person keeps on thinking of the other, suffers from the incessant pain, is incapable of accepting the bitter reality and is traumatised to the extent of landing up in depression. One must deal with it head held high, do not hold self responsible, try to distance self emotionally away from ex-partner who failed to nurture the relationship he/she willfully got into, let him/her walk away there is no point forcing someone emotionally withdrawn but just dragging along to be with you, have faith you have moved one step closer to meet someone made only for you. In such a situation one must look at  the broader aspects of life i.e one’s career & future, experiences awaiting in one’s intended travels etc. Relationship is just one part of your life; do not let it break you up, cherish the opportunities in store, love self, with time the pain will go & one shall be fine & happy.         

Parents are the first teachers who teach the child everything including the art of perseverance and value of giving respect. Parent’s patience with the love-hate relationship developed with them while growing up, pleasant & indelible memories marked with their love, respect and consideration of times when they held your hands to help create space in society plays an influential role in child’s future. A brilliantly groomed and happy child appreciates parent’s magnanimous hearts when they stand with & support him/her cope with the in and out of relationships dilemma being experienced by them. Failures are the lousy and best teachers, never get adversely affected instead evaluate in reference to the social and emotional impact of parent’s real life experiences to understand life. Do appreciate. One can’t control one’s future so do not be harsh on self, love & indulge in creative self that is an integral part of us. Be positive & go with the flow to enjoy each & every moment in its fullest, while exploring various aspects to win over the emptiness in life.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

IT SHALL PASS

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Many of us face a time in our journey of life when one is overwhelmed by the unending troubles due to one’s uncontrolled emotions, past memories, troubled relationships, bad finances, responsibilities and start feeling low to the extent of battling with suicidal thoughts. Be grateful to everything good in your life and remain enthusiastic & motivated to tide over your attitude of feeling discontent with the prevailing chaotic conditions in life. Retaining calm & confident composure instead of losing one’s cool due to the anxiety build up because of an unwarranted situation is what salvages one from occurrence of many misadventures. Believe in IT SHALL PASS.

Keep body & mind completely in sync.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Psychological well being is greatly influenced by one’s thought process. Compassion, acceptance, indulgence in activities that stimulates & inspires the mind, adequate sleep, enough exercise, healthy eating habits etc are essential to keep mind and body completely in sync.  Insecurities are very human thing but embracing these insecurities & living up to the expectations and mutual respect is the key to a successful relationship. Do not suppress but express inherent desires, view & assess the need to create optimal social life, keep a positive perspective, indulge together in activities of common interest as frequently as viable, learn to handle anger, anxiety, guilt etc to cultivate and develop close relationship.      

Faith and optimism builds self confidence – Belief in self.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Faith and optimism builds self confidence – Belief in self.

Suppression experienced in Childhood is one of the reasons one lives in fear mode. The mental, emotional & physical health of the kids depends upon the degree of confidence in self, essential for them to be in a state of calm and happiness. Treating kids gently without being critical of their actions inculcates confidence that helps kids grow without worrying about whether they are good enough or deserving. Teach the kids to shun the habit of developing an unhealthy attitude of making comparisons. Comparisons make kids feel bad about themselves thus adversely affects their self esteem & motivation thus forcing them into self doubts, unhealthy food habits & lack of fitness routine.

Leading a virtual life?

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Leading a virtual life?

Family & society thrives upon a feeling of social relatedness developed through frequent face to face interactions that inculcates values like courteous behaviour, compassion, patience, selflessness, responsibility and respect in human beings. In current times the over indulgence of young as well as old with digital world (virtual world) on one’s smart phone is limiting one’s social interactions within family as well as outside world thereby resulting in isolation from real world thus affecting mind & behaviour. The self centeredness & loneliness developed is resulting in lessened belonging, heightened stress & aggression levels, depression, physical abuse, deteriorating relationships and loss of peace.