Contentment in any given moment is essential to acquire skill to avoid the need to justify any act of unkindness and humiliation.  Reality of human being's innate longing to be in-charge of true self nature is determined by "holding on" to self fearing nothing at all regardless of the source of pain and suffering that one goes through. Stop compromising for approval, thoughts stuck within that clog up heart & mind must be released for finding a way to understand the essence of sense of repentance, bothering and damaging beyond repair intention to be harmless. One’s state of consciousness to let go of the feeling effortlessly is a faculty indicative of a human being patient, kind and forbearing under all conditions, even in the midst of the "worst" of them.