Individuality caught off guard by events upsets the uniqueness of life and is disquieting.  The arousal of strong emotions & feeling unsure of response one must value cause likely to force confrontation largely with emotional complexity. Realistic assessment of events is imperative for deterrence to keep under check deliberate unacceptable irrational behaviour in response to evoked emotions. Life's experiences provide an insight to recognise feelings without an evaluation. Individual's nuanced approach reflecting restraint in intent seeking retribution to provocation in self-defence is essential for resolution of dispute and prevents escalation of conflicts. Dismiss feelings as irrational, reaction is neither right nor wrong, address past putting aside dissimilar ways of interpretation to judge and grasp present.