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Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

It is quite common to have negative thoughts but you will only find peace within yourself if you choose to learn from mistakes and avoid conflicts. One needs to divert one’s mind and pay less attention to negative thoughts. You have to imagine yourself as a person who is able to deal with anything that life offers and become an improved version of yourself. Remain engaged in activities you like & which are for self-improvement, as it helps in maintaining a stable mind. Think of happiness as a by-product of living an engaged life. By remaining positive, a person automatically reduces negative thoughts culminating in being relieved of unnecessary stress.

Positive thinking often starts with self-talk.  A person needs to understand self in the first place in order to have calm mind. A healthy mind increases your life span. An optimistic attitude helps you maintain good health. There are a lot of health benefits by remaining positive. One needs to keep focus on improving day by day. What you think is what you become. Filter your mind regularly. Foremost thing to do is to stop generalizing things. Not all individuals think alike. Each one differs in their thoughts. Let go off things which cause pain and disturb you. Neither personalize nor take the blame on you. Stop anticipating the worst. Look for a new direction. There is always someone to guide you better and help you. Your mind is your friend. Don’t let your friend down, because of bad experiences. Instead look for areas to change, follow a healthy lifestyle and surround self with positive people.

Learn to accept yourself the way you are because everyone is unique. Do not be judgemental about things; rather find proper solutions to your problems. Keep realistic goals and maintain your hope. Be kind to everyone around you and spread happiness. Practice gratitude often by saying thanks to people that came in life and taught you lessons. Appreciate the little things in life, interact with people around you and keep awareness. Reframe your negative thoughts into positive ones. Make valuable use of your life and be humble always. Choose what is right for you and support yourself in every situation. Don’t feel let down, rather get up and work towards creating a positive atmosphere around you. Avoid negative influences because once you achieve that, you will be very much satisfied with your decisions. Deal with your past happenings with strong affirmations of removing stress and lighting up your inner peace. A person does not find success in one go. You need to learn, accept failure, find ways to improve, give room to new possibilities and then follow the path of righteousness.

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