Self love…..is important

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Self love…..is important

Loving self without feeling selfish & guilty, maintaining self respect, being honest & polite but assertive in one’s expression must be the way of life. Being humble and considerate does not mean to be apologetic. It is said one can never make others truly happy till one is happy himself/herself from within. Be true & honest in self, stretching one’s limits to please others generate undue expectations compelling one to go into depression at some point in life.  

Healthy friendly relationship……

Healthy friendly relationship……

Life is beautiful & purposeful when one is grounded, calm & composed, thinks and then reacts, goes with flow while the relationship struggle continues. One gets attracted to a personality but don’t try to copy others. Be self, patience, acceptance, transparency and trust in each other works towards developing a healthy friendly relationship to a stage when both of you are around each other, none of you needs anyone else. A relaxed and laid back partnership permits one to laugh, love, fight & make up, have fun, ignore and have serious conversations.    

Impactful interaction/conversation is one that reflects courtesy, empathetic concern/consideration, care and is crucial for developing mutual rapport/strengthening relationship so listen attentively, disengage from distractions. One’s way of living is an expression of the individual. Stay positive, express yourself and look for the highest purpose at everything you do. Feel empowered as no one else can make you feel empowered. Confident inner self is a must for peace of mind. Half the battle is lost when one feels undeserving.

Keep marching on the chosen path….

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Keep marching on the chosen path….

One grows up with certain desires/dreams. Life’s challenges experienced while coping up with one’s daily lives, at times results in set in of disillusions and undermines one’s confidence. One needs to draw a plan of actions (mental map), commit & involve self in the process to guide/direct self, minimize procrastination & avoid deviations from the chosen path for the accomplishment of one’s dreams. Prioritizing one’s actions that are in synch with one’s perspective of accomplishment inspires, renews and reaffirms one’s determination. Consistently work on the plan of ultimate importance without distractions, on the way doing something meaningful & different that influences life in a positive manner, for a stress free and joyous existence in reality.     

Guilt......

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Guilt......

Guilt, a negative emotion – a feeling of having wronged someone close, shakes one’s confidence and inner strength leading to losing peace of mind. In pursuit of career, ignoring someone close who were your strength during childhood and frequent arguments with someone you had deep emotional bond because of the difference in ways you think & live leaves one to regret his/her behavior. Spending time together, speaking as and when viable, non-interference in their way of life and avoiding unsolicited advice may result in a healthy and happy relationship thus allowing you to have fun & live a healthy & guilt less life. 

Start day with positivity…

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Start day with positivity…

Investing time and effort in your project needs physical and mental strength i.e a healthy mind and body in other words your state of mind. Parents and children have a special bond, their moods and emotions depict the harsh reality and are thought provoking but one should always endeavour to focus on positivity. Growing up must be a journey full of learning each day.  First thing in the morning one must do is exercise and keep self away from the clutter of information on social media to avoid unwarranted pressure. Respond positively to the beauty of people and nature around you to be happy and avoid getting hurt.        

keep it simple

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Life tests one’s limits every now and then through ups and downs. Change if does not happen is definitely disappointing. Everyone is different and makes different choices. Just dreaming is not enough it requires hard work to get success, don’t remain divorced from the issue. Everyone has the ability to master one’s own destiny, stay motivated and focused. Strike a balance between work and life, keep it simple and do take time out for self to stay alive while being there for family and friends.

Manage your feelings and strike a balance.

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Manage your feelings and strike a balance.

Interactions/conversations must be a pleasant experience. Fear & anxiety/stress holds you back from making a realistic assessment of situation, a must for saving conversations/interactions from turning argumentative. Consideration and courtesy helps check your emotions from running wild in an emotionally charged situation. One must be assertive & firm while telling the other person when he/she is wrong but in a polite tone. Manage your emotion, be empathetic rather than ecstatic so that you don’t annoy the other person & spoil the mood.

To be relaxed, happy and peaceful……

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

To be relaxed, happy and peaceful……

Change the way you think to stimulate present and transform your dreams into reality to live stress free life. Take control of life and don’t wait for something special to happen to empower life. Ruminating over the past & worrying about the future rather than appreciating & being grateful to the beautiful & relaxing moment at present doesn’t let you to be in relaxed state of mind. Consistent & constant gratitude, thankfulness and compassion for every single moment of happiness experienced each day rather than focusing on dissatisfaction in everything one does brings in positivity and adds value to one’s life.     

Manage your anger

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Manage your anger

While being deeply in love with partner you may be dealing with lot of issues and unable to control anger bursts but feels embarrassed later. In case want to sort this pattern of yours let professional therapist make an assessment, identify the triggers and chart out a plan of action/goals to help you manage & address the issue. Initially the progress may be slow and may take time but the change does happen.

SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder  

      

It is onset of winter; experiencing mood swings, feeling less energetic & depressed. Feel like sleep longer, lethargic, sad, and irritable; do not fear but manage carefully & diligently the change in mind & mood to avoid consequences of hindrance in your day to day tasks leading to low productivity. Go for regular exercise, deep breathing, yoga, morning & evening walks, instead of drinks, smoking, excess tea & coffee opt for balanced diet, fresh fruit juices and seek professional help to overpower seasonal affective disorder (SAD).       

Maintain a happy relationship?

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Maintain a happy relationship?

Life is an emotional journey that influences one at personal level, lived positively, helps one grow into a loving human being who spreads happiness in a relationship. Change is always difficult proposition; it is scary, thrilling but lot of fun. Love, fight, share transparently to each other howsoever small or big the issue may be, adjust to small imperfections, spend maximum time together, be there for each other through thick and thin and do have a me time to understand the worthiness of the other & bring in freshness in your relationship.     

Consciously manage your worry & stress.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Consciously manage your worry & stress.

Like coin has two faces human being also is either optimist or pessimist. Pessimist’s negative and self defeating thoughts always make him/her fear negative outcomes losing conscious awareness of their own power thus getting engulfed in negative thought patterns that put him/her under constant worry & stress. Optimist’s positive attitude creates dynamic awareness of his/her inherent worry patterns resulting in adopting positive thoughts that helps them consciously control the negative thoughts thus halting them from getting into negative thought cycle. It is said "what one conceives & aspires Universe conspires to create the same outcome". Make a conscious effort to shift your negative thought energy vibrations to positive thought energy vibrations to reverse your negative patterns to enter into positive energy zone. Let go of the past, feel relaxed in present, trust in your own being & future, consider adverse situation temporary & look for solution to help you consciously manage your worry & stress.

Life is beautiful, live it to the fullest.

Life is beautiful, live it to the fullest.

It is important to be stress free, stay positive and not hold any grudges to stay in one’s mind. Remain connected to reality, trust your instincts, set target for self, challenge & push self to realize your vision. Ignore the displeasure & unsolicited advice expressed around you, be humble & cautious in ways while making sense of others, pause & reflect before arriving at conclusion, only one knows one’s problems and only he/she can deal with them. The situation and environment around you does influence one’s behavior. Pay attention only to your little achievements.

Love is Divine.

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Love is Divine.

Love is a sacred feeling felt between two individuals who are involved & invested. One’s positive attitude to never give up, sense of humour, loyalty and friendship does inspire the other.  Certain acts of ours, though unintentional, hurt other’s sentiments and generate unwarranted controversies but it is a part & parcel of our growing up. It is natural to get angry when other tries to tease or make unnecessary comments but one has to be introvert to discuss with self whatever good or bad things happened and gain strength.

Facing emotional turmoil – Counseling helps

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor Chandigarh

Facing emotional turmoil – Counseling helps

Plunge into and overcome your fears. One who battles with one’s emotions but presents a happy go lucky face is sad, unhappy deep down and seeks solace in alcohol, drugs etc. One’s emotions are directly proportionate to the one’s internal wellness i.e a harmonious relationship between inner self and outer world. An optimum internal wellness is achieved via living a balanced life by integrating one’s mind, body and spirit. The behavior & actions must be directed towards pursuit of one’s physical & mental health, positive interactions with society, spending me time in solitude for inner dialogue to understand & get a deeper sense for relaxation & rejuvenation, addressing the issues that need more attention, acknowledging & expressing the feelings of anger, fear, sadness regularly to let go the negative emotions. It is challenging but is a must for living a happy, healthy and meaningful life.     

Success & Failure

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor

Success and failure are part and parcel of life as one wades through ups and downs. Failures & setbacks must not bog one down and make him/her restless. Surviving the failure is the need of the hour. Remain strong, confident, relaxed and patient to put up a fight to the unfavorable & adverse conditions. Invest in yourself, choose a goal and set your mind on it, work hard with the belief nobody is going to stop you from achieving goal. Reality is never hidden as such one cannot stop comparisons as such comments that are not vindictive or negative must be respected.  Share your life experiences with family members & support group. Both as a parent and as a child one must share meals and play time with one’s kids and parents respectively to live a sane and balanced life. 

Social media - the demerits

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Increased social media use by adolescents exposes them to varying situations that frequently trigger emotions which generates a feeling of either happiness, excitement & joy or sadness aggression & hysterical. The situation that makes one sad & aggressive compels him/her to over analyze the situation putting him/her under unwarranted pressure thus one losing composure. The internal strain generated due to the feeling of one’s reputation at stake sets in anxiety. Actually it is not the situation but one’s inability to handle the situation that causes anxiety which in turn clouds one’s logical thinking. In such an adverse situation one need not be apologetic, take criticism in right spirit, neither being too emotional nor too controlled and remain courteous and considerate to self.

Put in your best efforts because mediocre efforts give mediocre results. Limit your digital media exposure (television, computer, mobile etc) for a better chance of success. Silence is golden as it provides ‘me’ time for introspection that lets one learn invaluable life’s lessons hence do spend some time by self all alone in solitude. Strongly visualize the positive outcomes of your long term dreams to remain motivated.

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Psychological well being

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Psychological well being is affected due to the stress permeating into personal life because of lot of pressure experienced on account of one’s lifestyle thus adversely affecting interpersonal relationships. Adequate sleep, proper diet, regular exercise and owning a healthy social support system helps maintain mental health. One needs to set realistic doable goals, effectively manage time & prioritize one’s act to maintain a balance between societal demands and personal life. Leading a life trapped in vicious cycle of hectic & monotonous routine is depressive, reward yourself regular short vacations to de-stress, rejuvenate and refresh. Step back, introspect the reasons of turmoil, accept your limitations, commit & focus efforts on realistic doable & achievable short term goals and don’t let distractions de-motivate you.  Be realistic in self evaluation; avoid getting trapped in unrealistic high or optimistic expectations, keeping external factors that are not in your control in mind, to avoid experiencing chaos and confusion.     

How to conduct in life.

Worrying is lack of faith in one’s abilities leading to living in fear, a self created misery. Self confidence helps one win over the unwarranted fear. Awareness & acceptance of one’s inherent weakness helps a self confident person work towards overcoming these weaknesses.  One’s attitude with respect to self image – if it is negative creates negative thoughts pushing one towards negative outcome whereas if it positive it shall create positive thoughts resulting in positive reality because the energy one generates from within changes the circumstances. Expecting the best from oneself keeping the self pity at an arm’s length, visualizing the best scenario, working on new ways to deal with emotions while valuing one’s life, positive affirmations to be happy at all times is the way one must conduct in life.           

Love relationship issues

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Love relationship issues

A healthy relationship to live happily side by side depends on the degree of commitment between partners. The reality of life is two individuals join together because of similarities but unfortunately start focusing on the differences once commit to each other.  The understanding & compromises necessitated due to different temperaments, irrespective of the deep love & devotion for each other, adversely affects the commitment for each other. The fear of repeat of hurt due to inadvertent mistakes of partner, insecurity on account of developing thought of loss of identity while conforming to partner’s expectations, intolerance exhibited towards one’s behavior, misplaced priorities & absence of affection, attachment & appreciation by partner, experiencing humiliation, insult or bullying by partner results in emotional pain & disruption in trust that over the time lessens the commitment in a healthy relationship. The counseling session with a therapist helps the individual understand his/her thought process and anxiety associated with it to rebuild the broken trust in order to overcome the trust deficit between partners.     

Examination stress

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Examination stress

Each one of us experience examination stress but the level/degree is what matters. In order to keep it at the lowest, start and prepare from the day one of session. Schedule a subject wise study plan while remaining realistic about how much you can study each day. Concentrating for hours is very difficult, take a short break when your mind starts wandering. Every morning when you get up visualize how you would like to stay calm and confident, remain motivated & do not procrastinate for effective study. Still feel pressure, open up to a family member or a friend or a professional.     

Master your personal life

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Excessive use of smart phones, social media, work pressure, relationship issues all brings one under unprecedented stress. Learn to discipline self & change your thought process to empower self to be aware of whole new world of possibilities & help you determine & control the direction of destiny. Let go and release the past resentments, suppressed feelings, guilt, anger & inherent fears making you uncomfortable. Persistent negative thoughts like judging self, others & personal experiences, over indulgence with addictive behavior to run away from reality creates anxiety & depression. Today’s young generation is a knowledgeable lot & seeks understanding, not taunts. They need professional help to understand both physical & emotional aspects to master personal life.  

Mindfulness

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Mindfulness

Mindfulness, means to be fully present in the here and now, for mental health and well being is slowly gaining foothold in today’s fast paced world. It empowers an individual to overcome the ever consuming thoughts of anger, fear, desire, despair, longing or regret & thus understand one’s own physical, mental and emotional state. The real/correct perspective so gained helps to heal, transform and nourish. Pause, relax and be aware of the present moment, your feelings, emotions in order to get a grip on your response, as one’s response to challenges makes all the difference. The fast paced life is affecting children also. Children are hyper-active and suffer short attention spans. They need to be taught to carry out any activity, be it eating, walking, reading or listening with entire focus to raise them as capable adults who will be in control of their emotions.      

Anxious ?

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Anxious?

Anxiety builds up when an individual starts worrying constantly about the unknown future rather than keeping one’s mind in the present moment. It is natural to be anxious due to one’s insecurities - questions like what will happen? what will be the future like?. But suffering incessantly the unchecked anxiety due to one’s confused emotions fearing the uncertainty of future leads to depression.  The impermanence of events/circumstances that keep on changing from time to time needs to be understood & made the foundation stone of life’s perspective. It shall leave no room for unfounded fears and hence the anxiety & depression. Be aware of the negative emotions; remain engaged in stress relieving activities like meditation; exercise; hobby etc.  

The power of thought – Dream, Believe and Achieve.

The power of thought – Dream, Believe and Achieve.

An individual must take complete responsibility to establish balance between his/her two opposite conflicting intentions possible & impossible i.e the most important thought and the most inconsequential thought. Rapidly shifting thoughts are responsible for all that goes on within us. Break the boundary of mind restrictive circumstances, expand mind to suit your imagination as what one perceives can be conceived.  It is said reality matches assumptions hence improve self image & self confidence essential to build a positive perception enabling you make right choice for a new experience. Adhere to the belief that you are not weak and vow to achieve harmony between your active & passive self via your will power and creativity.    

Suffering Isolation & Loneliness - why?

Disintegration of childhood/adolescent close friend circle due to geographical dislocation because of profession, break down of joint family system & small family norms is pushing individuals into social isolation, living alone & suffer from loneliness till such time the person is able to re-establish his/her identity amongst the community & strike real friendships for much needed person to person connect. The prolonged loneliness & lack of people to people connect proves to be an emotional & psychological drain resulting in development of mental disorders like mood blues, anxiety, depression and suicidal tendency. The person gets entrapped in enhanced virtual digital connect on social media, addictive behavior like smoking, drinking, drugs etc. to cope up with the stress thus affecting his/her mental & physical health. Effective professional psychological counseling, robust social support system, bonding with family & extended family helps the person talk without inhibition, spending time with nature/outdoors, pursuing passion/hobby, joining cultural organizations and indulgence in social service helps the person find new friend circle to cope with his/her isolation and loneliness.     

Speak to Psychologist at the earliest

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

The human preferences, the likes or dislikes, desiring better conditions paves the way for new perspectives & improvement in life. The function of mind is to judge and make choices but when it is personalized to judge self and identified with, the individual ends up feeling confused & self-critical thus the suffering from mental disorders. The preoccupation and obsession with thoughts of fear/negativity terrifies & develops into phobia. The ensuing discomfort, pressure & desperation makes one try to get back to comfort zone at any cost… including sacrificing long-term health, happiness & success. Mental disorders like depression & anxiety must not be more embarrassing than any other ailment. Identify, accept, admit and talk about the issue with support group/Psychologist/Counselor. Reinvent self, think more clearly, have positive outlook, let go the negativity, express your uniqueness through your desires/preferences & get your lives back on track. Living in the moment truly makes one live.

GOD has a plan then why bother?

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Facing emotional moments ranging from love to crisis to anger, anxiety & nervousness is inevitable as we grow. Embrace, enjoy what life offers at the present moment, be grateful for the all the good times and have fun. Indulge in activities that keep you optimistic. GOD has a plan then why bother? Life’s a struggle, conditions may be against you at present but rather than giving up, have patience & faith, work to your full potential with courage, dignity and grace. Circumstances do change for individuals who compassionately empathise with self. What brings smile on one’s face is the feeling of happening life and being alive.

Change in perspective

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

There are times when gloom causes one to momentarily lose sight and feel like life is at a standstill. Repeated bouts of adversity are an unavoidable aspect of human existence. Stagnation is often a sign that great changes are on the horizon. Trust, perseverance, inner faith & renewed confidence in own capabilities, creativity helps overcome the anxiety about the ability to succeed.  Not bothering about the future keeps one just where one needs to be—fully committed & in the present moment. Remain fully engaged in the day at hand, enjoying all it has to offer & putting energy into making the most of it & wait for the time when everything shall be in its perfect place. Listen to inner guidance & focus thoughts with fresh perspective on the goals that resonate the most strongly within to be perfectly ready & capable to handle future. Remain calm & continue to battle against inner struggles to emerge stronger & better equipped to cope with the challenges. Self examination, adjustments and change in perspective, behavior, or response helps one to prepare for the right opportunity.

Consult Counselor - It helps live a balanced life.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Today’s fast paced competitive environment burdens an individual with multi-faceted responsibilities. The experience makes the person develop a point of view, opinions, fear of rejection, complaints, angry, distracted leading to his/her drift away from being connected. They need to be talked to and heard with respect, consideration, understanding of their point of view without letting the conversation get a bit argumentative.  A counselor makes a sincere effort to know what is going on in his/her life, feelings that are bothering reassuring the person of being understood of their point of view via patient listening with attention, appreciation and acknowledgement of their opinions helping the individual open up. Regular counselling sessions helps an individual live a balanced life.

Self confidence - key to happy, healthy and successful life.

Anmol Singh- Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Self confidence - key to happy, healthy and successful life.

Self confidence, an imperative quality that helps lead a successful personal & professional life, is of utmost importance to sustain mental and emotional well being. Belief in self propels one to take on life challenges head on without worrying/fearing the outcome. Self love, valuing self & own capabilities, staying hydrated, adequate sleep, healthy diet & regular exercise boosts confidence which helps one to embrace self doubts without being too self critical. Indulge in talking to self, give self good & meaningful suggestions to combat negative thoughts and move ahead.  Self compassion is the key to a happy, healthy and successful life.

Importance of Counselling

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Importance of Counselling

The uncertainties in life do derail the outcome, as envisaged & expected, of one’s thoughts and actions. The emotional response in such a situation at times is nasty and violent behaviour that adversely impacts own self. The internal mental conflicts pressurize the individual so overwhelmingly that he/she starts exhibiting sudden/unexplained mood swings, social isolation from friends & family members, hopelessness, helplessness, anxiety, anger and over indulgence in alcohol/drug abuse. The observance of suspicious behaviour/sudden change in individual’s personality indicates he/she might risk mental health. A counselor provides an environment in which the individual feels safe to express his/her feelings uninhibitedly without fear of being judged & stigmatised, learn & develop the much needed healthier coping mechanism to deal with mental conflicts. The session with counselor helps the individual re-evaluate, reconsider his/her opinions and end up learning adaptive coping mechanisms to deal with their stress.               

Counsel for Love & Breakup

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh 

Love happens naturally and the person envisions a beautiful sincere loving relationship/partnership but after blissful courtship for sometime witnessing absence of reciprocation & rejection in love at some point later hurts miserably. It leads to despair and hopelessness. A person keeps on thinking of the other, suffers from the incessant pain, is incapable of accepting the bitter reality and is traumatised to the extent of landing up in depression. One must deal with it head held high, do not hold self responsible, try to distance self emotionally away from ex-partner who failed to nurture the relationship he/she willfully got into, let him/her walk away there is no point forcing someone emotionally withdrawn but just dragging along to be with you, have faith you have moved one step closer to meet someone made only for you. In such a situation one must look at  the broader aspects of life i.e one’s career & future, experiences awaiting in one’s intended travels etc. Relationship is just one part of your life; do not let it break you up, cherish the opportunities in store, love self, with time the pain will go & one shall be fine & happy.         

Parents are the first teachers who teach the child everything including the art of perseverance and value of giving respect. Parent’s patience with the love-hate relationship developed with them while growing up, pleasant & indelible memories marked with their love, respect and consideration of times when they held your hands to help create space in society plays an influential role in child’s future. A brilliantly groomed and happy child appreciates parent’s magnanimous hearts when they stand with & support him/her cope with the in and out of relationships dilemma being experienced by them. Failures are the lousy and best teachers, never get adversely affected instead evaluate in reference to the social and emotional impact of parent’s real life experiences to understand life. Do appreciate. One can’t control one’s future so do not be harsh on self, love & indulge in creative self that is an integral part of us. Be positive & go with the flow to enjoy each & every moment in its fullest, while exploring various aspects to win over the emptiness in life.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

IT SHALL PASS

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Many of us face a time in our journey of life when one is overwhelmed by the unending troubles due to one’s uncontrolled emotions, past memories, troubled relationships, bad finances, responsibilities and start feeling low to the extent of battling with suicidal thoughts. Be grateful to everything good in your life and remain enthusiastic & motivated to tide over your attitude of feeling discontent with the prevailing chaotic conditions in life. Retaining calm & confident composure instead of losing one’s cool due to the anxiety build up because of an unwarranted situation is what salvages one from occurrence of many misadventures. Believe in IT SHALL PASS.

Keep body & mind completely in sync.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Psychological well being is greatly influenced by one’s thought process. Compassion, acceptance, indulgence in activities that stimulates & inspires the mind, adequate sleep, enough exercise, healthy eating habits etc are essential to keep mind and body completely in sync.  Insecurities are very human thing but embracing these insecurities & living up to the expectations and mutual respect is the key to a successful relationship. Do not suppress but express inherent desires, view & assess the need to create optimal social life, keep a positive perspective, indulge together in activities of common interest as frequently as viable, learn to handle anger, anxiety, guilt etc to cultivate and develop close relationship.      

Faith and optimism builds self confidence – Belief in self.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Faith and optimism builds self confidence – Belief in self.

Suppression experienced in Childhood is one of the reasons one lives in fear mode. The mental, emotional & physical health of the kids depends upon the degree of confidence in self, essential for them to be in a state of calm and happiness. Treating kids gently without being critical of their actions inculcates confidence that helps kids grow without worrying about whether they are good enough or deserving. Teach the kids to shun the habit of developing an unhealthy attitude of making comparisons. Comparisons make kids feel bad about themselves thus adversely affects their self esteem & motivation thus forcing them into self doubts, unhealthy food habits & lack of fitness routine.

Leading a virtual life?

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Leading a virtual life?

Family & society thrives upon a feeling of social relatedness developed through frequent face to face interactions that inculcates values like courteous behaviour, compassion, patience, selflessness, responsibility and respect in human beings. In current times the over indulgence of young as well as old with digital world (virtual world) on one’s smart phone is limiting one’s social interactions within family as well as outside world thereby resulting in isolation from real world thus affecting mind & behaviour. The self centeredness & loneliness developed is resulting in lessened belonging, heightened stress & aggression levels, depression, physical abuse, deteriorating relationships and loss of peace.

Sight or thought of something one holds dear, generates a pleasurable emotion but attainment/fulfilment of desire generates feeling of satisfaction, love, delight and pleasure the basic characteristics of happiness. Disentangle self from illusory pleasures. Social structure and peer pressure contribute to personality development. One must perform to one’s best capability for a successful life. Self discipline i.e maintaining balance between work & free time to be with one’s true self, regular exercise, meditation, healthy food habits & remaining optimist are a must to face challenges/adversities without any anxiety to experience better circumstances, better health, and healthy relationships to create & lead blissful life.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Think before you speak.

Anmol Singh-Psychologist & Counselor, Chandigarh

Think before you speak.

In case heading towards an awkward conversation respond carefully and wisely. The disruptive and destructive attitude spoils the relationships. Suppress your own feelings, make an excuse and slip out or get away from the conversation at that moment. Do not judge on one time basis, evaluate and if regular affair make a sincere effort, talk/discuss/express emotions later without being emotionally reactive before situation gets out of hand. The insecurity in us makes us defensive and reactive rather than accepting other’s view point and being receptive to the criticism with dignity. Listen, acknowledge, appreciate, pause, introspect without prejudice and speak courteously, friendly, politely clearly and firmly devoid of hurt, blame and accusations.